Mister_Lonely Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 We broke up 2 & half months ago but a week ago we decided we can't be friends as it is too painful as she has a new bf who she cheated on me with. I found out she has been London with him this past weekend to meet her parents yet I got a text saying 'I wish we could be friends'. I know I shouldn't have replied but said 'how can we after everything? I can't do it', she replied saying she missed me & she is sorry & wants to be friends. Why has she texted me this out the blue? I can never be friends with her whilst she is with this guy, he has even shown his disapproval of me by texting me abuse so what is she doing?
Jonesey Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 She is cake eating dude. N/C, it'll shake her to the core. Good Luck. Jonesey
Am4Real Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 We broke up 2 & half months ago but a week ago we decided we can't be friends as it is too painful as she has a new bf who she cheated on me with. I found out she has been London with him this past weekend to meet her parents yet I got a text saying 'I wish we could be friends'. I know I shouldn't have replied but said 'how can we after everything? I can't do it', she replied saying she missed me & she is sorry & wants to be friends. Why has she texted me this out the blue? I can never be friends with her whilst she is with this guy, he has even shown his disapproval of me by texting me abuse so what is she doing? She is sharing her guilt for the breakup and by doing so alleviates those feelings reaching out to you. You gave her the right response and personally I would not respond anymore. Can you blame the new BF for being upset…his NEW GF wants be friends with the last guy she was intimate with? If I was him I would be looking over my shoulder and around hers….LOL!
betterdeal Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 She said she misses you and wants to be friends. That sounds like the reason she's texted you. More interesting is why are you curious about it. How does it make you feel?
The_411 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Think of it this way. This girl completely disrespected you and now wants to further disrespect you by getting what she wants from you without you getting what you want from her. As mentioned this is cake-eating behavior. Accepting a friendship would mean you've effectively cut off your balls and handed your man card in. There is nothing to be gained from a friendship with a liar and a cheater. She wants to assuage her guilt and be a selfish bitch.
whichwayisup Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 We broke up 2 & half months ago but a week ago we decided we can't be friends as it is too painful as she has a new bf who she cheated on me with. I found out she has been London with him this past weekend to meet her parents yet I got a text saying 'I wish we could be friends'. I know I shouldn't have replied but said 'how can we after everything? I can't do it', she replied saying she missed me & she is sorry & wants to be friends. Why has she texted me this out the blue? I can never be friends with her whilst she is with this guy, he has even shown his disapproval of me by texting me abuse so what is she doing? She is being so selfish! Just shows that she cannot see the pain and hurt she caused you. And WTF is that guy doing texting you? What an a-hole! Do yourself a big favour, block her number, and email so she can't contact you. Ignore her. Sorry you're hurting.
Author Mister_Lonely Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 Thanks for the responses. I have good days & bad & when I don't hear from her I get on with it & then she gets in touch & messes me up. Last week for example we met up in person & messed me up, telling me about her new bf but saying she still loves me. I can't ever get back with her so what's the point in even talking, I don't want to know what she is been doing. I already know her & her fella like to do drugs together. I don't like him texting me giving me abuse but to be honest I have drunken texted her so of course he is annoyed, I would be, no one likes a jealous ex. I am struggling to wipe her off my mind & then she texts saying she misses me & wants to be friends. I am sure her new fella would like that, she didn't tell him about the few times we met up so surely he knows she can't be trusted, I mean she cheated on me for months with him. I won't get in touch with her again but dreading the day I see her with him.
betterdeal Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I have good days & bad & when I don't hear from her I get on with it & then she gets in touch & messes me up. Last week for example we met up in person & messed me up, telling me about her new bf but saying she still loves me. Okay, how about seeing this as your responsibility for your own happiness, your self-respect, your well-being. I say this because it empowers you. It gives back to you the power to succeed in your life journey. By taking responsibility for your self, your life, you will be the full, real you. For instance, I shall try to rephrase the above quote but from your point of view: When I hear from her I feel unhappy. I am not going to do things that make me unhappy, and being in contact with her makes me unhappy. Therefore I shall stop making myself unhappy by stopping being in contact with her. I will do this by ...
MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 she did that either b/c she feels sorry for you and also b/c she wants to keep you in arm's reach in case she doesnt work out with this other dude. and honestly they started their rx based on a lie..and deceit. so there is not chance they will work out...they may stay together for yrs or just weeks but in the end it wont work out. and that's where you need to decide what you're worth....are you worth putting aside "for now"..cause thats what shes trying to do. and you can tell her "I can't" all you want but nothing says it more than actually not doing it..and by that i mean dont even reply..as long as you reply she knows you're still in
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