GivenUp0083 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I have found that on two of the free dating sites I've encountered (OKC & POF) there have been multiple men to harass my female friends who were members. It has tainted my view of dating online. You honestly never know what you are going to get from either gender. So you mean this has only happened online and guys have never been rude or harassed you outside of the internet? We should ban the internet... It's causing men to act so rude! OKC and POF are jokes. My experience has been nothing but heartache. Anytime you put yourself out there and the results aren't up to expectations, especially when there isn't reciprocated interest, there will always be heartache. I went through over a year of heartache of dating women I met on match.com. Then I was laid off and had to go to a free site, OKC. I'm glad I did, because I met a wonderful woman and we are absoutely perfect for each other. 6 months in and haven't had even had a fight as our communication is excellent, and we share the same values and interests. I was the first date she ever went on from OKC and from ever meeting someone online. The problem isn't the world, the problem isn't you, you just have to have realistic expectations when searching for that "needle in the haystack", with the needle being a great person who matches you well.
OliveOyl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 http://www.razorbackit.com/Images/edating.jpg :lmao: The sad thing is it's so true. Anyone ever see the movie "Easier With Practice"?
GivenUp0083 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 (edited) I will say this about those dating sites most of the men I encountered have one thing in mind can I get in your pants the first date or they flat out say hey you want to hook up?? There is nothing wrong with sex but come on you haven't even met the person and you already want to hook up or you went out on a date and they expect you to jump in the bed with them? I get it we all want sex but whatever happened to waiting for awhile like maybe a few more dates perhaps?? For me, I kept running into women who didn't look like their photos, or weren't "emotionally available". What I mean by this is they had either just got out of a relationship and weren't over it yet, or they had other things going on in their life where they just weren't in a great place to be in a relationship or wanted a guy like me. What turned everything around for me is that I learned to be more selective in who I communicate with. I don't like to say picky, because I tried to remain open minded about people and not make judgements based on looks/pictures/wording of their profiles, but instead I targeted specific traits about women I found important. Example: I wanted someone who was a nice girl. Someone who was caring, friendly, and honest. I found a preschool teacher who had close relationships with family and friends, and liked to go on habitat for humanity trips and had specific examples of this. Her pictures really weren't that great and I was a tad reluctant about meeting her, but it was only for a drink and I went for it anyway. Turns out she was 10 times better looking than the pictures she put up, I was blown away when I first saw her. I still give her crap and ask her "why did you put up such bad pictures of yourself? They don't even look like you...." The rest was history, we just had great conversation and everything else just fell into place. It was effortless. If it's right, it won't be hard or frustrating. Hopefully that helps you. Edited April 27, 2011 by GivenUp0083
Author Rinnix Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 So you mean this has only happened online and guys have never been rude or harassed you outside of the internet? We should ban the internet... . I'm saying that there is more of it on these websites as they are more likely to get away with that attitude. And no, I never had someone approach me like that as I avoid scenes where these type of men go. Im not fond of bars or clubs, so I don't go. It's sad that we have to avoid people like this to begin with.
PhillyDude Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 For me, I kept running into women who didn't look like their photos, or weren't "emotionally available". What I mean by this is they had either just got out of a relationship and weren't over it yet, or they had other things going on in their life where they just weren't in a great place to be in a relationship or wanted a guy like me. What turned everything around for me is that I learned to be more selective in who I communicate with. I don't like to say picky, because I tried to remain open minded about people and not make judgements based on looks/pictures/wording of their profiles, but instead I targeted specific traits about women I found important. Example: I wanted someone who was a nice girl. Someone who was caring, friendly, and honest. I found a preschool teacher who had close relationships with family and friends, and liked to go on habitat for humanity trips and had specific examples of this. Her pictures really weren't that great and I was a tad reluctant about meeting her, but it was only for a drink and I went for it anyway. Turns out she was 10 times better looking than the pictures she put up, I was blown away when I first saw her. I still give her crap and ask her "why did you put up such bad pictures of yourself? They don't even look like you...." The rest was history, we just had great conversation and everything else just fell into place. It was effortless. If it's right, it won't be hard or frustrating. Hopefully that helps you. It may have been a strategy for her to put a less flattering pic up of herself so that she will have better results once she meets
EmperorR Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Online dating sucks However it's all about location I put my location in a smaller city than what I live in and I had like 15 msgs as a male in two days and I was not the one who iniated. However in my city I live in yeah right been 4 weeks now I got one msg from a morbidly obese chick saying hi. Even if you right a decent msg at best you just get a thanks it's just for attention, it's why I always see the same women for months and months attention.
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