my ex wasn't that great

[danny1972]

hi all ,just my thoughts,

i split with my ex gf of 3 yrs a year ago ,the trouble is i always blamed my self for the break up even though we were BOTH responsible for the inevitabel break up , i tried the pleading ,n/c begging all the things that i thought was right at the time , i glorified her idolized her put her on a pedestal , thought i'd never meet anyone like her ,even began to sink into a mild depression ..........untill last week ......i met a wonderfull girl when i wasn't expecting it we exchanged numbers and finally met up .

 

after spending several hours on our first date , i realized my ex wasn't that great it's just i had nothing to compare her to untill now , the trouble is i glossed over the bad parts of my ex's personality and focused on the good , only when you meet someone decent do we realize how much of an ass the ex really was , truth of the matter is my ex was a drunk , immature ,attention seeker , with a whole load of issues ,who sleeps around, i would never have thought that of her a week ago , funny how being in the right company ,can tell you your ex was bad company ...and wasn't that great after all

[JasonRules]

hi all ,just my thoughts,

i split with my ex gf of 3 yrs a year ago ,the trouble is i always blamed my self for the break up even though we were BOTH responsible for the inevitabel break up , i tried the pleading ,n/c begging all the things that i thought was right at the time , i glorified her idolized her put her on a pedestal , thought i'd never meet anyone like her ,even began to sink into a mild depression ..........untill last week ......i met a wonderfull girl when i wasn't expecting it we exchanged numbers and finally met up .

 

after spending several hours on our first date , i realized my ex wasn't that great it's just i had nothing to compare her to untill now , the trouble is i glossed over the bad parts of my ex's personality and focused on the good , only when you meet someone decent do we realize how much of an ass the ex really was , truth of the matter is my ex was a drunk , immature ,attention seeker , with a whole load of issues ,who sleeps around, i would never have thought that of her a week ago , funny how being in the right company ,can tell you your ex was bad company ...and wasn't that great after all

 

 

I agree with the above. When we meet someone new we realize that what we "had" in our previous relationship wasn't all that we made it out to be and we start seeing their flaws.

[Jonesey]

I am glad this happened for you after the pain you felt. Yes, if it was bad you will see it more clearly once removed from the situation.

 

I am glad it worked out for you!

 

Jonesey

[danny1972]

thanks guys for both replies , didn't think i would ever end this cycle considering she lives down the road from me and see her on a often basis