laughliveloveNC Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Hello everyone! Let me preface by saying I am 38 and very new to dating. I met my ex when I was 20 (amicable split this year) and was very shy in High School so this is my first foray into the very confusing world... I had what seemed to be a great first date. Several hours of conversation, drinks, dinner then onto a different location for more drinks. Lot's of subtle physical contact. Arm touching while talking or laughing, that kind of thing. As the night went on the barstools got closer and closer. Legs touching, candid conversations about past relationships or what we are looking for in future ones... We both brought up ideas for possible future dates. Seem to have a lot in common... At the end of the night we both said we had a great time and I said "I would like to see you again" and she said that would be nice, she was doing some traveling this week etc. She is a mom of 2 kids 8 and 10 and been divorced for 6 years. I did not go for a kiss as i feel the first date needs to not run that fast. We did hug... Not long after we left I sent a quick text saying again that I had a great time and she replied with the same. Next day I sent a text saying how great she looked that night and a few other things. She replied "That may be the sweetest text I have ever got!" Ah - modern technology LOL! So over the next few days we exchanged texts here and there and email or two. Mostly saying hi or checking in. Then last week I was out and saw some candy she had mentioned in passing was her favorite so I thought "Why Not?" and bought a few bags, some Easter grass and sent them to her office (she told me where she works) with a note that said... I say these and remembered you said you liked them. Have a Happy Easter! When she got them (last THursday morning) she texted "That was so sweet! Thank you and Happy Eater to you too!" I asked if they were the right ones as there were 10 different kinds and she said "They were perfect!" I then told her to drive safe to her family's house for Easter and have a great time. We would catch up when she got back. To which she replied "Talk to you soon!" Not wanting to be smothery and needy I have left it alone since then. My question is... Do I just wait for her or in a day or two check in. I did like her and would love a second date but again I don't want to seem pushy and needy. But I don't want to play it so cool that I come off uninterested. Thoughts?
neghitzbrah Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Was there a lot of flirting? Yes Did she say had a good time? Yes Did she like the flowers? Yes She is REALLY into you. But flowers and candy after a first date is a bit over the top, from my perspective. Then again, I don't know the exact situation. I would recommend you wait until she contacts you. I doubt she would flake or anything.
Author laughliveloveNC Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 Thanks... there was flirting that including some open talk about sexuality and sex (not between her and I ) and I didn't send her flowers... just some candy but i did give her a rose at the beginning of the date. I'll give it some more time. We have had zero contact since last week Thursday. Thanks for taking some time to respond!
Author laughliveloveNC Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 So I said screw it and texted her Wednesday evening. I am tired of games or waiting 7.567 days. We had 6 days of zero contact. I felt like ti was time to drop her a note and say hi... I asked her how her Easter was via text and she said: "Had a nice time with family. You?" Told her about mine then asked her: "Are you selectively snacking on those peanut butter eggs or downing them by the bag?" She said: "Haha. Rewarding myself with one or two here and there and sharing with less fortunate co-workers!" We small talked (texted) for a bit. I knew her oldest had a birthday, asked about that, she mentioned they have a rollerskating party this weekend, made some jokes about skating etc. etc. Then I asked if I could call her later (it was about 7:45pm) and she said she had her kids that night and said "Tomorrow?" So we set a time for 9pm I am going to run under the assumption we are going out again as I would hope she would have let me know by now if she wanted me to scram so I am going to just take the ball and run with it. I am thinking the tone in her voice and the ease of conversation will tell me something. I have a few topics on hand to make sure things flow nicely. Wont drag it out too long though... I'll report back in.
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