collegeguy_24 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Yeah, just what it says, I sent her a text that said happy easter, but get this, it wasn't even intentional. I have 3 or 4 people in my phone named Jen, most are friends, one is the ex. I sent a mass text to everyone I know on Easter wishing them a Happy Easter. Me and my friends do this every holiday, and have been for several years now. Naturally, I didn't get a response from her, I wasn't expecting one to be honest. I tried to open up friendship with her before, she said she wanted to try, now she ignores me like I don't even exist. I know I still love her, thats never going to go away, but I'll be damned if I am going to let her ruin my life like this. I may love her, but she doesn't love me, she made that fact obvious, and while nothing would make me happier to then talk with her again, it has to be a two sided thing. Meaning she has to actually contribute. Aside from the easter text, I haven't contacted her for two months, possibly more I'm not sure. I put the ball in her court now its up to her to use it. Till then I will do my best to try and live what crappy life I already have. Women, sometimes I wonder why men like me even bother when in the end we get screwed, stabbed in the back, and left for dead.
Fufu Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 (edited) If it is unintentional it's fine. You don't have to wait for her reply.. no point waiting. And don't look down on your own life, how you look at your own life is going to be reflected on what you think/perceive. Think positive, your life is not crappy. You are a living person, able to live everyday is a blessing. Women, sometimes I wonder why men like me even bother when in the end we get screwed, stabbed in the back, and left for dead. Not all women are like this. And its the same for all the female dumpees, not all the men are what we thought to be. I always believe in this, "Our exes only hurt us deeply and strongly ONCE when they chose to give up, the rest of the time, we are the ones hurting ourselves." Ultimately, live your own life to the fullest. Edited April 26, 2011 by Fufu
Author collegeguy_24 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 I know not all women are like this, I was just feeling very bitter this morning and let it out for a bit to vent. I know more women who are good people then I know bad women. I have come to accept the fact I love the ex, but I need to live my life now. Even though its been almost a year, I still feel like some sort of creeper for caring about her still. MY own mom says its almost like I am obsessed and stalkerish, eve though I avoid the ex. I have given up most of my anger and jealousy, there is still a bit left but I am working on it, a little bit at a time. My new girl is wonderful, there are quite a few bumps in the road for us, but we are trying to work them out and am hoping this summer proves fun for us. My mind is very obsessive, which annoys me more then most as it goes a million miles a minute and really focuses on things. Weird. Anyone have anything to say? Opinions, questions, your own experiences?
Fufu Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I know not all women are like this, I was just feeling very bitter this morning and let it out for a bit to vent. I know more women who are good people then I know bad women. I have come to accept the fact I love the ex, but I need to live my life now. Even though its been almost a year, I still feel like some sort of creeper for caring about her still. MY own mom says its almost like I am obsessed and stalkerish, eve though I avoid the ex. I have given up most of my anger and jealousy, there is still a bit left but I am working on it, a little bit at a time. My new girl is wonderful, there are quite a few bumps in the road for us, but we are trying to work them out and am hoping this summer proves fun for us. My mind is very obsessive, which annoys me more then most as it goes a million miles a minute and really focuses on things. Weird. Anyone have anything to say? Opinions, questions, your own experiences? Cheer up, don't be bitter Everyday is a bright day, even when it rains and snows, the sun is always up there. You may not realize this yourself, you are doing so much better than before. Don't be too hard on yourself. With efforts, love and patience, I do believe your relationship with your new girl will work out well.
Author collegeguy_24 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 We'll see if it works out. We had some hard bumps, and have both said that we like each other, but don't love each other. She was the first one to say it. We agreed that we would give summer a chance, cause it has a lot of to do as a couple then winter does. We are hoping with all the hiking, national parks, and such, we can re-ignite the spark, but if it doesn't work we may end up parting ways. Even if we do end, I am done with dating, at least for a while or permanent, not really sure. I am tired of all the emotion that goes into this, I need to cut off my emotions for a bit. And she said she'll probably never find anyone else which is sad to hear. I plan to do my best to keep it going for us though, I'm not throwing in the towel yet.
whichwayisup Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I have 3 or 4 people in my phone named Jen, most are friends, one is the ex. Either delete her or add "ex" next to her name so that mistake doesn't happen again. Did she reply back? Anyway, don't beat yourself up. It was an honest mistake, one that won't happen again..
Author collegeguy_24 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Either delete her or add "ex" next to her name so that mistake doesn't happen again. Did she reply back? Anyway, don't beat yourself up. It was an honest mistake, one that won't happen again.. Nah, she never did reply back, but its not like I expected her to, that would mean she has to actually do something and we all know she doesn't have the guts to talk with me.
Layzie89 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Listen to the song 'Keeping it real' by Shaggy. I listen to it all the time when Im feeling down, it reminds me that although the heartbreak caused by failed relationships is nothing compared to the struggles that alot of people go through in the world. Whenever you're feeling down you gotta remember that theres always someone who has it worse than you. Be happy your in good health. Be happy you have a new girl in your life. Put your ex in the past and focus on the present. She has moved on its time you do the same. Were all here for each other man if you need anything just post. Stay up my man. Life is good.
TaraMaiden Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Why are you agonising over something that was clearly an error and as such, a non-event? Why even look for meaning in it? Why so pissy, if in fact, it's irrelevant...? Of course, this would never have happened if you'd deleted her off your phone, like you should have done..... Eh...?
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