FallenAngel84 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Can someone please explain these feelings? I’d like to hear from someone who has been in my shoes before. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 8.5 months now. Within the last week or so, I’ve started to feel different about our relationship. I love him, I know this or the way I’m feeling wouldn’t affect me in the slightest but I feel like maybe our spark has died down? I feel weird being around him because of my guilt I’m feeling. I want to feel how I once did with butterflies in the stomach, constant excitement, WANTING to get married to him and have kids, etc. I know this eventually dies down but how does it feel once it dies down? I feel like a part of me has died with this feeling. I look at him and cry because I feel so bad. Up until about 2 weeks ago, during the day I’d think about him and get all giddy. Nothing happened to make me feel differently at all, that’s why I’m so confused. I’m not trying to avoid seeing him or anything but it feels a bit awkward when he tells me how much he loves me and I tell it to him back knowing I’m having these odd feelings that I can’t quite figure out. Lately,I want to see him all the time because I’m afraid if I don’t, I might grow apart from him and that really is the last thing I want. My last long term relationship got like this at about his point in the relationship. We slowly drifted apart but I do NOT want this to happen this time around, I do not want to break up with him. My BF is so sweet, caring, compassionate, loyal, etc but I can’t help thinking these things about how I’d feel if he went out with someone else and vice versa. I do not want that, they’re just thoughts but I’m curious for input. I keep hoping this will all just pass and i'm just way over thinking.
Eeyore79 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Sometimes that feeling of boredom comes from seeing someone all the time and taking them for granted. If you saw him a little less, you might find that you miss him and the feelings would return.
Author FallenAngel84 Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 Sometimes that feeling of boredom comes from seeing someone all the time and taking them for granted. If you saw him a little less, you might find that you miss him and the feelings would return. Possibly! When im not with him, I dwell on my negative thoughts...when im with him, I know everything is okay and we are together...if that makes sense.
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