alphamale Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 It seems that not drinking "enough" is about as bad as not drinking at all? you have to find the middle ground....not drinking enough and you'll be labeled a sissy and boring. drink too much and you're labeled an alcoholic. about 3 to 4 drinks per outing should be right
alethean Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 It's not an issue for me. I don't drink either. And no one accuses me of being boring or a tattletale. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.
ASG Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Never again will I date someone with a drinking problem, past or present. Yeah, I get that. But that being said, I never think of my dad as having a drinking problem, because he just doesn't drink. He didn't join AA or anything like that. One day he woke up and thought "I need to stop drinking" and did. Same with my ex. He stopped because he thought it might become a problem. They don't struggle with not drinking. Kinda like most smokers don't struggle with not smoking after they quit.
Disillusioned Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Guy nextdoor is always offering me a beer. I always overhear him and his wife having screaming matches. If anything, he's a living demonstration of why I'm glad I rarely drink. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against drunken rowdiness... it's just that I find the taste of alcohol to be really lousy. BTW don't you drinkers ever get paranoid that your date might have slipped a mickey into your drink? An unconscious person is easy prey to pervs.
Star Gazer Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Yeah, I get that. But that being said, I never think of my dad as having a drinking problem, because he just doesn't drink. He didn't join AA or anything like that. One day he woke up and thought "I need to stop drinking" and did. Same with my ex. He stopped because he thought it might become a problem. They don't struggle with not drinking. Kinda like most smokers don't struggle with not smoking after they quit. It doesn't matter for me. A problem is a problem, regardless of how it's handled. But it doesn't really matter why someone doesn't drink. I wouldn't date someone who doesn't drink at all because enjoying a glass of wine or going wine tasting is one of my most favorite things to do, and I want to share that with my partner.
Stung Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I'd much rather date somebody who doesn't drink than somebody who drinks too much. I have dated people who struggled with unhealthy lifestyles and drug and alcohol problems in the past, and it was easy to get swept up and unbalanced by it. I don't drink much anymore in terms of going to bars and having hard alcohol, and the rare times I overdo it I get really unpleasant hangovers that are a very effective deterrent. I do love wine, go wine-tasting regularly and am experimenting with making my own wines so I don't see myself abstaining completely anytime soon, but only going out for a little blowout with cocktails once or twice a year, tops, suits me fine. I'm happier getting up and going for brunch and a hike without the pounding headache.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Some of you (males) who don't drink and have problems in social settings and talking to girls.... Don't you think there is a correlation? I've been reading many of these threads and feel that is the real difference between myself and many of you. I have the same fears and insecurities. In fact, I still do and I have had many relationships and many sexual partners. I don't know that you ever get rid of these feelings. I NEVER really know what to say to a girl and it is hard as hell to approach them. But with a slight buzz, not drunk mind you, I turn into almost a different person. My brain stops second guessing. They don't call it courage juice for nothing. I'll be honest. Outside of social setting with alcohol, I would probably never get laid. Well, at least at the beginning of my dating life. Alcohol is God's gift to the socially inept/awkward as far as I'm concerned. I don't know. Maybe it correlates, maybe it doesn't. I rarely find myself in a position in which people are actually drinking though so it's kind of a moot point. Two of my high school friends drink on occasion but the vast majority of my friends drink very rarely or never (I'll be honest I have a disproportionate amount of Muslim friends who-while otherwise "normal"-still abstain from alcohol). I guess we just find other things to occupy our time with.
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