ChiLuv Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 So I recently moved back to the town i grew up in and reconnected with a guy Ive know since i was a child. We started talking on fb and I was telling him how i just have gotten out of an 8 year abusive relationship and he starts to tell me how the relationship he is in now has gone for the worst as his girlfriend is jealous and controlling and always puts him down and uses him for money. They dont even sleep in the same beds, they stay in seperate rooms. Well I was wanting to just hang out as friends first so when he took her to work he would come over sometimes and hang out with me and my son. As time went by and we talked more and more i started to develop feelings for him and he was developing feelings for me. We eventually kissed and have also had sex once. But he cant just up and leave his girlfriend for me because he has nowhere else to go. I really like him, in fact I am falling for him because he does treat me well, makes me laugh, have a lot of similarities and he is so good with my little boy. He says he cannot get his own place yet because he does not have his own car and his current girlfriend spends all his money. We talked recently and he said we have to keep things on a platonic level for now because hes afraid she'll find out and kick him out and hell be homeless. It just hurts because I so want to be with him, and i know i cant right now. I just dont want to be lead on and my heart broken agian. Any advice would help....
utterer of lies Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 So I recently moved back to the town i grew up in and reconnected with a guy Ive know since i was a child. We started talking on fb and I was telling him how i just have gotten out of an 8 year abusive relationship and he starts to tell me how the relationship he is in now has gone for the worst as his girlfriend is jealous and controlling and always puts him down and uses him for money. They dont even sleep in the same beds, they stay in seperate rooms. Well I was wanting to just hang out as friends first so when he took her to work he would come over sometimes and hang out with me and my son. As time went by and we talked more and more i started to develop feelings for him and he was developing feelings for me. We eventually kissed and have also had sex once. But he cant just up and leave his girlfriend for me because he has nowhere else to go. I really like him, in fact I am falling for him because he does treat me well, makes me laugh, have a lot of similarities and he is so good with my little boy. He says he cannot get his own place yet because he does not have his own car and his current girlfriend spends all his money. We talked recently and he said we have to keep things on a platonic level for now because hes afraid she'll find out and kick him out and hell be homeless. It just hurts because I so want to be with him, and i know i cant right now. I just dont want to be lead on and my heart broken agian. Any advice would help.... But you are having an affair, nothing real. He tells you all the usual lies and excuses. Don't let him fool you that easily...
Professor X Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 You don't want to be lead on? Than don't let him. Simple really. Why are you making it so hard? Why do you keep staying in contact with him while he's still with his GIRLFRIEND. You wanna get hurt? By all means, continue to do what you do, I'm not gonna try and stop you. Because from where I stand, it's simple really, he messes with you. If he wanted to be with you, he would. And I don't buy into all of his "homeless" crap. It's pure bullcrap. His GF doesn't spend his money, he lets her spend his money. As long as he has a job, he can rent a new place to live in. He's playing you and you know it. What you're doing is not fair towards your child.
Author ChiLuv Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 yea i suppose i am being foolish. I wear my heart on my sleeve and it seems to get me in trouble. Luckily my son is only a baby so it hasnt done any damage. I suppose ill just try and keep myself occupied to keep my mind of it.
WillSingForFood Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 yea i suppose i am being foolish. I wear my heart on my sleeve and it seems to get me in trouble. Luckily my son is only a baby so it hasnt done any damage. I suppose ill just try and keep myself occupied to keep my mind of it. While you're at it, stop all contact with him. You're the other woman right now for one reason or another (regardless of why things are bad between them), and you need to respect that he's her man. The reason that he's staying with her though is a pretty lousy one if you ask me. If a guy was only with me still because he had no where else to go, then I'd consider him a loser, and probably kick him out. Plus, how can you believe what he says about their relationship, when he's the one having an affair? If shes spending all his money, what is she doing with the money she earns at work? Does she throw it all away on drugs? Or is it just his excuse to why hes with her still? Hes not actively leaving her when hes so miserable, and Im sure he's just trying to lead you on to believe that something can come for you two, so that if he does leave her, then he can go to you and mooch off of you instead. Seriously, this guy is a loser regardless of how great he treats you and your son. Stop contact and find a single man who has his life more in order than this guy does.
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