Eternal Sunshine Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I actually found the opposite to be true. Guys I dated often commented that they like that I am "stylish". My current bf remembers what my shoes looked like on our first date (down to every detail) and I never wore them again while with him. He also remembers the color of my nail polish Few weeks ago, I wore this long dress to a comedy festival I went to with my bf. My dress almost completely covered my shoes. At a random point I jokingly asked him to describe what shoes I am wearing. Again, he was spot on! Conversely, in my early 20s I didn't care about grooming as much. I often sported chipped nail polish and the guy I dated at the time bought this up as an "issue". He actually told me that the fact that my nail polish is often chipped is turning him off I am sure that that there are guys that don't care but there are plenty of guys that do care (without even realizing it perhaps).
Star Gazer Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Or maybe he's just so smitten with YOU that he remembers every detail about YOU!
quietGuy13 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Who said we don't care about what the girl wears??? i love girls in sexy/cute clothes!!!! and i think most men do.
mogul Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 So far from the truth. I will not date a girl who isn't a good dresser regardless of how attractive she is. She must be able to match me if it is a formal function, or look good if we are going to a beach bbq, party, etc. I love a girl in nice jeans, a cute top and shoes to match with a nice purse. I am a sucker for girls wearing Uggs running errands or on a cold day. If we go clubbing, she'll look the best in her dress.
Feelin Frisky Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 There's a difference between liking how things look on a mate and just liking how things look. You won't find men commenting much on handbags hanging in a store window or various pairs of shoes on display at a mall. I think it's important to understand this because I have experienced women who don't realize how men and women differ on things like this and get annoyed that we're are dense about those things. We're not. I notice flattering stuff on a mate and gladly make gifts of such things. But if she expects me to gush the same way as she about how "fabulous" a pair of pumps on a mannequin look, she should not hold her breath.
Stockalone Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I actually found the opposite to be true. Guys I dated often commented that they like that I am "stylish". I am sure that that there are guys that don't care but there are plenty of guys that do care (without even realizing it perhaps). I am sure some guys care about it. I don't think it's most guys, though. That said, it depends on what exactly you mean with "cares" about clothes. I am sure there are certain clothes every man likes best on his gf. Personally, I don't pay attention to nail polish or shoes, but I have my favourites as well. My current bf remembers what my shoes looked like on our first date (down to every detail) and I never wore them again while with him. He also remembers the color of my nail polish Maybe he has a shoe fetish. Or it simply could be what Star Gazer said. Few weeks ago, I wore this long dress to a comedy festival I went to with my bf. My dress almost completely covered my shoes. At a random point I jokingly asked him to describe what shoes I am wearing. Again, he was spot on! I believe there actually used to be a thread about how some guys really like and remember shoes (I think it was about high heels).
Andy_K Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I couldn't describe any of the shoes of my current girlfriend or any previous one. I could maybe have a vague guess at the colour. I don't really care what a girl wears as as she looks attractive...
Eeyore79 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 If a girl looks a mess, or her style of dress doesn't match the image and social status a man wants to project, he won't be interested in her. A stylish professional man wearing a suit and a Rolex won't want to be seen with a woman in a trashy outfit with huge gold hoop earrings; he'll want a woman who projects the same stylish affluent image that he does.
EasyHeart Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I definitely notice and appreciate a well-dressed woman. I think where men and women differ is on the meaning of well-dressed. I think most women dress to impress other women, not men. I am usually attracted to women who dress simply: a woman in t-shirt, jeans and light makeup with her hair down is way, way, way more attractive to me than a woman in a fancy dress, lots of makeup and hair I can't (and don't want to) touch. The best thing to do is watch a few episodes of "Sex and the City" and then wear the exact OPPOSITE of what those four women wear (and act exactly opposite from how those women act). That's what men like -- women who aren't anything at all like the SATC gals!
somedude81 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 EasyHeart nailed it. What I don't like is when women try too hard to be sylish in day-to-day. If we're going out somewhere, please wear a nice dress etc. But for every day, tight t-shirt, fitted jeans or shorts is all that's needed. Most girls try to add to much to their outfit which just makes it look worse.
Els Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I think all of you guys exactly proved her point for her. You can't claim to 'not care' and then say you prefer a woman to dress in such and such a way. Not caring means not caring, period. 'I prefer her in a fitted tee and tight shorts' is really caring every bit as much as 'I prefer her in Prada', just in a different way. From my experience, I think very few guys truly do 'not care', and those are the diamonds in the rough I look for. As for those who do care, great! Different strokes for different folks... I'm sure a woman who loves to look her best will appreciate it actually being noticed. Just... stop claiming to 'not care', okay?
Nexus One Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 From my experience, I think very few guys truly do 'not care', and those are the diamonds in the rough I look for. As for those who do care, great! Different strokes for different folks... I'm sure a woman who loves to look her best will appreciate it actually being noticed. Just... stop claiming to 'not care', okay? A guy can 'not care', but still have an opinion on whether one style looks better than another on a particular woman. He will not care in the sense that clothes will not influence his opinion on whether he loves a woman or not.
Els Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 (edited) A guy can 'not care', but still have an opinion on whether one style looks better than another on a particular woman. He will not care in the sense that clothes will not influence his opinion on whether he loves a woman or not. Oh, that is very true, yes! I completely agree. I do think that men in general are unawares of how clothes make them feel about women; ie I believe a man who places physical appearance very high on his list but claims to not give a damn about clothes is, to put it politely, bull****ting. But I do agree that it is completely possible for someone to have preferences but truly not have it affect their relationship choices however. I think that wasn't the point the men here were making though. They seemed to think that because they prefer a woman dressed in casual (but figure-flattering) clothes with their hair down, it means they 'don't care'. Edited April 26, 2011 by Elswyth
somedude81 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Of course we care how a girl looks. Her style is a big reason for attraction. What we don't care about is the brand name, how much it cost, whether it's in season or not, who else is wearing it, what the latest trend is etc.
Els Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Of course we care how a girl looks. Her style is a big reason for attraction. What we don't care about is the brand name, how much it cost, whether it's in season or not, who else is wearing it, what the latest trend is etc. I don't think any women had expected most men to do so. Which brings us to the interesting question of how women and men came up with such disparate ideas of what 'cares about clothes' means.
threebyfate Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Your style projects your image and guys buy into it or not. It's much like the fallacy that men don't like make up on women. What they don't like, is badly applied make up or when the make up comes off, someone who looks entirely different aka unattractive.
somedude81 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I don't think any women had expected most men to do so. Which brings us to the interesting question of how women and men came up with such disparate ideas of what 'cares about clothes' means. You got me there. Personally, I'd love to go shopping with a girl and pick out an outfit for her. I'd put her in something cute, with a bit of sex appeal but not to much, and of course there needs to be cleavage
tigressA Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Every guy I've dated has cared about how I dress, some have cared more about fashion in general as well. I dated a guy who was a fashion plate like me, and we went shopping together a lot. We would send each other links to things online we were thinking of buying and had pretty good eyes for what the other would look good in/like. My BF is sort of in the middle. He doesn't care for knowing/explaining why he finds something attractive or unattractive, but he can pick it out whether it's on me, a mannequin or a computer screen.
musemaj11 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Whoever said men dont care about how women dress in the first place? As someone else said, all we care about is how you look in our eyes. We dont care if its Louis Vitton or some Chinese knock off as long as it looks good on you.
Star Gazer Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Whoever said men dont care about how women dress in the first place? I'm actually wondering the same thing. Being visual creatures, of course men care about how women look. Often they don't really give a care about their own fashion sense though!
TokyoG33kyGal Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 of course they do! it adds excitement before they take them off XD
veggirl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Clothes that complement your body are good. Shoes? No straight man cares about shoes. Fashion? No straight man cares about that either. If you have a nice ass and you wear pants that show it off, thats all we care about. You contradict yourself, a bit. Men do care about shoes and clothes. They care about how a woman looks in them. Most women look longer and sleeker in heels...so men like that. Tight pants show off an ass...so yeah, men care about the pants.
musemaj11 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 You contradict yourself, a bit. Men do care about shoes and clothes. They care about how a woman looks in them. Most women look longer and sleeker in heels...so men like that. Tight pants show off an ass...so yeah, men care about the pants. His point is that we men don't care about the clothes themselves. We just care about how you look in them. You know there are some women who wear the latest fashion dresses just because they are the latest fashion. We don't care about the status of the dress. We just care about whether u look hot in it or not.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 I'm actually wondering the same thing. Being visual creatures, of course men care about how women look. Often they don't really give a care about their own fashion sense though! There are plenty of threads where men state that they don't care about clothes, shoes, make up or nail polish.
musemaj11 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 (edited) Men and women see beauty differently. I remember reading about how according to a survey most men dont find glossy red lipstick appealing which I agree with. Women seem to think the more sensational, the better when it comes to clothing. But average guys are not gay fashion critics who have a clue what the hell you are wearing and instead think you look like a clown. Edited April 27, 2011 by musemaj11
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