Aleks Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Im new here, but read many topics and this looks like a great and helpful community, hope you will help me solve this.. Sorry for a long long post. I've started online dating this girl who is 1 year older (she's 21, im 20) than me (started 3 months ago so relationship is quite new), she is from USA and Im from Europe, 7hour time difference. She made me fall in love with who she is by talking to her, we exchanged pics, she told me her story from the past which sounded quite tragic (3yr with cheating bf and many other bad things) and I accepted it all. Don't think Im desperate or anything, Im quite successful, studying in a university, good looking, others say Im nice, I prefer online dating, just because Im naturally a pretty shy guy) Things were going great, we've been talking for 10hours daily (planning to meet in the end of this year), I have my messenger on my phone and talk to her when Im free during breaks in university, driving back home on a bus and whole time when Im home. I've had my experience in online dating as well as normal dating. Been with a girl for 3 years in real and had 1 year with other girl online, but ended up with nothing due to our cultural difference. So I try to see where is lie and where is not, but maybe Im just blinded by love all the time. During our 3 months many things happened to her, which sounds a little bit weird, but I believe her. She got into car crash, had a brain surgery (due to result of the car crash, wasnt too hard and long). One thing that bothers me, while she was in hospital her grandmother (as she said) was asked to bring her the iPod to the hospital for her and message me.. Her grandmother actually messaged me and we talked for quite a bit, and this is making me wonder.. Grandma? Ipod? I asked my GF about that and she said that it is easy to log on messenger on her Ipod and her grandma was secretary so she knows how to type.. I believed.. Am I blinded by love? Well.. I belived this.. So now for today and why I am actually writing. Last Wednesday she was online the last time and right now I have slept around 3 hours during last 3 days - Im worrying like crazy. She had her birthday on Friday, I sent her a present (a drawing, cant do anything more right now, due to the distance as you understand).. I thought maybe something happening with the weather there, stroms and power was cut.. Yesterday she should have been in school so she could easily use her iPod there to talk - she wasn't online. So no contact at all and if she would log on messenger I would see it, even if it was offline mode (I have my ways). Im starting to worry a lot, can't eat, can't sleep. Thinking that either she doesnt want to talk or something really serious happened.. well or she was lying the whole time, but the way she was talking I cant believe she can lie at all, she's the sweetest, understanding person I truly love her and yes I fell in love with her over the Internet I find it very possible. Today I will try texting her father (she said her family knows about me) as my last option, she gave me his phone (not her phone, she is aware that texting will be highly expensive, incoming texts as well). I will try texting him today (tried twice before, but failed) and wait for a reply, but right now I need a suggestion. I know it is a "fresh" relationship and Im totally blinded by it. Do you think she is lying? Do you think I was just played or something really bad happened that doesnt let her stay in contact? (Accepting your advice will be lot easier, especially if it will match with my texting attempt)
Noor Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 So what happen after that ? you sent your post on 26th April 2011 ! for give me i am a new member, and i do not understand why others members did not replay !
Author Aleks Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 (edited) Well.. Its been 2 full weeks.. I've tried messaging/calling her father.. Nothing.. She told me he had a special application on his phone to get free texts and she wasn't lying about that - I tried calling that phone and operator said it was a number supported by that application for free texting. So I have no contact with her from 3 weeks. I've been using random sites to check what could have happened.. So far I've found that they had a storm later that day when we last talked.. Nobody died, but 55K customers were left without electricity in her state.. I was believing that, but it's been 3 weeks and I asked one guy who I randomly found on youtube about how bad the situation was and he said nothing much really happened there.. Anyway.. Even if that happened.. They can't fix a power line in 3 weeks? Come on.. Right now I just want to know that she is ok and nothing bad happened to her after all this my trust to her has fallen lots even though she might be just as useless as I am in this situation.. I will still be more than happy to read your advices.. Though I was quite sad that I didnt get any before this. Edited May 5, 2011 by Aleks
Pianiste Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 The reason you might not be getting a lot of replies is because it's a tough situation. It seems you are already doing everything you can to contact her and what else can you do but wait and hope for her to respond? It does sound a bit like she had quite a lot of things happening to her during those three months you've been dating and had funny/unlogical ways of handeling them, getting her grandma to text you, giving you her dads phonenumber. My instinct would tell me that that's a weird way of solving stuff and that it is very coincidental that all of those things happened in such a small timeframe, but it's not impossible. I can't help but be a bit sceptical though, it's unnatural not to let a person know you are alright if you talk with them for hours everyday one moment and then dissapear completely the next. I wouldn't get my hopes up...
Noor Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I do not know what has happen to her, but i wish every thing going to be ok with you both. There is nothing to say in such situation. You have to be more patient to make any relationship works, especially if it was long distant relationship. try to send e-mails day after day, and week after week to tell her how much you care. I wish you luck
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