disbelieve Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Well this is my story maybe one of you can tell me something, ive read alot of posts here and have helped coped a little with all this but im desperate here. I have been with my girl for 2 years and havent had the best relationship, I mean sure we had our great and memorables times at first, but we began having issues lately and seemed to be fighting often. We seemed to have evened out and were doing fine for a long time and everything seemed perfect and glorious. To make long story short, she is pregnant and expecting my child. I know she is mine and have no doubt about it, but i have had my insecurities in the past with her. Little things here and there have happened that have made me mistrust her but still I continued on and got her pregnant and proceeded to get engaged. well to make long story short(again), i found out she was texting some dude and because of my child i forgave her and she promised me she would never do such thing and told me she made a mistake and that she wanted to work on our relationship. Well as the time passed everything seemed to be going well. Until she started working at this place and I started noticing she started to get kind of distant and cold. She blamed it on the pregnancy and being tired and that why she was "distant" and not happy all the time. I started to worry a little but thought to myself she wouldnt do anything to me, I mean cmon, pregnant and engaged? But apparently I was wrong, she started staying late for work and one day stayed 4 hours later and claimed she was talking to coworkers (women only) and she didnt pick up her phone because it was dead...(sure) Well I had doubts in me and something told me something was up so I know I crossed my boundaries but i went thru her phone and found out she was with a guy coworker instead that day and the dude was even calling her love and what not. So I told her to get out of my house and my life and its been 3 days now and i still feel like crap that this happened and cant explain why someone pregnant and engaged would do such a thing, when ive been such a great person to her. I guess the only thing im asking is that its killing me knowing that my child will grow up in a divided home but I know i cannot get back with her. My thought process is going crazy and im desperate.She hasnt even called and said anything, she asked for forgiveness but that is all.
Hhhh Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Wow, I'm so sorry about the whole situation, but because she is having your child you can't kick her out of your life, but you can difinatly break up with her. I suggest you guys sit down and work out a plan for the baby. Meanwhile you need a to build a life of your own join a gym or a club and make a few friends. I don't know how she thinks, buy maybe she is trying to give you space. If you acted with rage while asking her to leave your home I think you need to make the first call.
Author disbelieve Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 Not at all. I actually acted very calm which was a shock.to me and so did she, she just left knowing what she had done and didn't think twice.
Author disbelieve Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 quick update she just contacted me to let me know she wants to meet. I kept the NC code
Darren Steez Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Painful reality is she's pregnant and whatever fantasy she and this guy were engaged in the reality is he's not going to want a broad who's pregnant with another man's baby, so she'll come back to you. But her behaviour is not consistent with someone who wants a future with you, especially if she's been carrying on with two separate guys. Not good for you my friend.
smudge21 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I don't know how NC works when there's a baby on the way. I think you both need to put that first. It's always sad when two people break up, but even worse when there's kids involved. It sounds to me like she's going through a fair bit of GIGS here and some time apart may bring her round, but don't take my word on that, I can't possibly know for sure. I wish you all the best and so hope you get this sorted for all involved.
JasonRules Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 This is what you need to do: 1. Tell her it's over 2. Explain to her that a paternity test will happen as soon as the child is born and if it is not yours you are absolving yourself of any financial obligations. And just a final observation; given that she's a cheater, I'm willing to bet the child is not yours. Actually, given how things turned out, you should be praying its not. Otherwise, you'll just be another dude with "baggage" paying up the azz for the next 18 years.
Author disbelieve Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 Well she called again, I think the guy she was talking to ran like darren said, She is emotianilly hurt and sorry for what she did. Im still NC for now. Its messing with me head.
MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 It sounds like she's not ready to commit to you...and although you would love to be a family this doesn't sound like the right time. maybe this is her rebellion toward the pregnancy. She sounds confused as well. I think that your job is to be a father...not a husband...not a door mat...just a father
Author disbelieve Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 It sounds like she's not ready to commit to you...and although you would love to be a family this doesn't sound like the right time. maybe this is her rebellion toward the pregnancy. She sounds confused as well. I think that your job is to be a father...not a husband...not a door mat...just a father I know I will have to deal not being a family for now and frankly although I know it sounds nice, it still doesnt take away from the fact that She lied to me and was flirting with someone, while being engaged and expecting. Im very hurt from all this. Thank you all who responded.
Author disbelieve Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 another day another TXT. She is trying to brake me...Iam just gonna stop even loooking at them. This is harder than i thought
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