whoknowswhattodo Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 My ex's mother texted me today to inform me that she no longer has a close relationship, she said that my ex is becoming rude and dissrespectful with her. Her family loved me and I never would of seen her act that way to her family. Her mother also said she missed me and her together. That I brought security in my ex's life. I'm a business man and don't know anything about "playing the game of love" I just know love as what you feel inside. Does it sound like my ex might be having regrets? I know she has to contact me from my earlier post you all have spoken on. Is she maybe having second thoughts? Idk what to think. I'm trying my best to relax and started running again to get my mind off of it but I can't. What do all of you think?
b89 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I wouldnt go so far as to say that shes having second thoughts about your relationship. She may be without direction in her life since. I dont think that you should read into it that she wants you back. Id say that you gave her a sense of direction in her life, and now thats gone. Shes probably been looking for it in the wrong places and feels that her life out of control. I wouldnt necissarily say dont contact her, but if you do dont assume that she wants you back. Theres little to suggest from what you said to say that she does. Probably what shes needing is support from her family and friends and may not feel shes getting it. Let her know your there for her, but dont push it, and be prepared to be shut out if she doesnt want your support, i know it sucks but it may happen =(
Author whoknowswhattodo Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 I wouldnt go so far as to say that shes having second thoughts about your relationship. She may be without direction in her life since. I dont think that you should read into it that she wants you back. Id say that you gave her a sense of direction in her life, and now thats gone. Shes probably been looking for it in the wrong places and feels that her life out of control. I wouldnt necissarily say dont contact her, but if you do dont assume that she wants you back. Theres little to suggest from what you said to say that she does. Probably what shes needing is support from her family and friends and may not feel shes getting it. Let her know your there for her, but dont push it, and be prepared to be shut out if she doesnt want your support, i know it sucks but it may happen =( Ok, I will remain nc because she knows how I feel about her and if she wants me back she know where to find me. Tomorrow will be 14 days nc with her and I'm feeling more confident but I still miss her like crazy. I'm still praying that she will get everything sorted out and want to get back with me but idk what she is going to do? Everyone please say a prayer for me, I'm gonna need them...
ironmanpower Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I've been in this kind of situation. Ex and I were dating for close to 3 years and everyone of us was expecting us to get married. When I proposed, she rejected and boom, the following week she wanted a breakup. The few months that followed was hell, there was the house that we had purchased which we have to cancelled, the joint savings accounts etc. My ex's family loved me a lot and they treated me like a son in law. My ex lost direction in her life and was coming home late and her family were concerned and text me about it. I broke NC after a few weeks and contacted her after her Mum told me she's been looking very down. I met her and she cried out to me how guilty she was feeling so guilty after this whole breakup and how her family does not understand why she broke up with me. I felt like **** after meeting her and it was an emotional rollercoaster. I was the one being dumped and yet you're crying out loud to me? She was having second thoughts all this while during the NC period and wanted to come back to me. But the intentions were not strong. After that, I decided to keep NC and it's been 5 days. Everything has been going on well. I still miss her like crazy but I know that there're other women out there. She's not the world. My advice is just leave it as it is and do not contact her and be her tampon. She would contact you if she wants you back. Just leave it as it is now.
betterdeal Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I'd let her mother know you're concerned by the news, but you cannot help her. It takes time to get over a break up, and exposing yourself to more harm at this time in your life is too risky. As a businessman, imagine you had a business partner who decided to leave your partnership to start their own business that's similar to yours. Your business is at a very challenging stage and exposed to a lot of debt. You need to reduce your outgoings, increase your incomings and your margins more than ever if the business is to grow through this period. Do you lend resources to the start up business of your former partner now? In a year, maybe two, your business has grown and achieved many of your goals. You have better margins, costs are down, sales are up, you're even turning some leads down. Your former partner gets in touch to see how things are going, chew the cud, catch up &c. Passing on some of those unwanted leads to them at this stage can be agreeable. Hell, you might merge if the conditions are right in the future. But for now, you're in a lean period. Time to wish them luck and get on with managing your own business.
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