stephmichelle Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I appreiciate everyone on here so much, everytime I have a question or a panic attack, I know I can come here and get help So, here's the new problem of the day. I got a weird text message on Thursday around 3am pretty much saying "Just so you know, EXNAME and I are kinda seeing each other now..." so I researched it that night and found out it's a girl that he knows named Chelsea. He's been hanging out with her and I heard Wednesday night he stayed out with her until 7am. So, I take a screen shot of the text and send it to him, asking him to explain. He completely denies it, say's none of that is true, says it's not her number, he's not talking to anyone, and I should just ignore it because whoever it is is just trying to create drama. So, I go and see him Saturday night (I regret this now, already wrote a thread about it) and we wound up sleeping together. This is still bugging the crap out of me though. I really want to call the number and ask if it's really true and also tell her that were still talking and even spent Saturday night together...should I do this? Or would this be stupid to do? I know I'm being lied to and I just want to call her and verify it...I've asked a couple of friends what I should do, and some say call others say not to. He's said that if he were to start talking to a girl, he would tell me about it before I started hearing anything, but he doesn't even plan on it anytime soon. I want to know what's going on :-/
Author stephmichelle Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 It's killing me having to think that he might be with this girl... I keep picturing him being sweet to her and kissing...ect. I don't know how to stop thinking about it...
b89 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 look, thats a really horrible situation to be in, and the fact that you guys "slept" together is really not good. In a way you've reaffirmed that even though you suspect he did wrong, he can get away with it. I know it may not be what you want to hear, but it sounds like what you suspect is whats actually going on, i mean, whats more likely someone hatched some elaborate plan to piss you off, or your boyfriend is being unfaithful. I hope for your sake it isnt, but honestly dont let it consume you and effect the restof your life, but at the same time dont take any **** that you seriously dont deserve.
b89 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 oh, and as far as calling this other girl, again you may not want to hear it, but, calling her can ONLY do damage, but in the end you need to look out for yourself in this situation. You need to consider whether the effects of calling this girl will outweigh whatever knowledge you gain. But remember, if you call her, shes not just going to fess up and tell you everything anyway, theres also the possibilty still thats theres nothing going on and this will piss your boyfriend off.
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