Felixtheecat Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 My girlfriend broke up with me just last week. Here's my story if interested http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t275147/ Today was an especially hard day for me. I woke up and my mom asked me to take her to the emergency room because she was having severe back pain so I did. Coincidentally my grandmother was admitted just a few rooms down because she had fell and hit her head on the floor. The doctors found that in addition to the cuts and bruises her brain was bleeding. About an hour later she became incoherent and the doctors found that the was clotting in her brain and surgery is going to have to be performed (it's going on right now). I left the hospital because I needed a break. My life was already a mess and now this. I had decided last night that I was gonna cut communication for a few days with my ex. She needs space and i'm communication was just causing me frustration. Despite all that I decided to tell my ex what was going on. She had met my grandma a few times before. I felt like I she would give me some words of comfort and because she had met my grandma it seemed right that she know. I texted her the info since she was at work. Once she got out of work she texted me back. I expected a call and certainly more concern than I got. Am I going nutty in this break up? Even if I conclude that her response was underwhelming i'm not even sure what i'd do with that idea. I love her too much to stop trying to get her back. I swear, when it rains it pours. A few months back I lost my job. I recently failed a test for a certain certification. More recently I had a horrible argument with my father. The love of my life broke up with me last week. Now my last remaining grandparent is in the hospital.
b89 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 buddy, i dont know what to say, i dont think much can be said. But, however, ive had a very similar situation with my recently ex girlfriend of 7 years. The lack of sympathy is a very normal thing in this circumstance i think. In all honesty, you guys broke up, and i dont know who did what but obviously things werent working. As hard as it may be to wrap your head around, your ex-girlfriend doesnt need to support you emotionally anymore. Ideally she would, but by distancing herself, which is probably more painful for her than you realise, shes avoiding letting herself get hurt emotionally. Depending largely on how long and intimate you guys were together, id say that deep down she probably does care, but you cant expect her to come running for you when you need her. When my relationship broke down, the feeling that it was over was mutual, but she was the one to actually break it off. When it happened [on easter morning =( ] i said to her that even after we've broken up that whether its a week or 2 years later, if she ever needed anything at all, if she was stuck somewhere or her car had broken down or she was lost or whatever, just to ring me and i'd come running, and that thered be no hidden motives. When i told her this i can tell you i could feel the sentiment wasnt mutual. So that hurts, and itsnot easy to deal with, but i could never expect her to be there for me in any sense now that weve broken up, we broke up for a reason, and life needs to go on. I hope that this helps to understand why shes acted this way =(
Author Felixtheecat Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 Yours words make sense. I guess I just get upset that she said i'd always be her best friend and in my mind that idea was put to the test. My grandmothers condition worsened so I decided to call my ex. My concerns on this matter were put to rest. She was heart broken for me and we talked. I was hurt that she thinks it's going to be at least a month before she can see me again in person. I'm just starting to realize that I might just need as much space from her as she has needed from me. Her wanting to maintain a friendship with me is a double edged sword though. If she can tolerate and perhaps looks forward to seeing me in the future than I believe that I still have a chance at winning her back. On the flip side, if that doesn't happen and I ever had to see her with someone else. Adios. That's a whole other level of pain that I have no interest in
b89 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 i couldnt understand what your feeling any more then i do on that =(
Hlep Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3248383#post3248383
MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 you need to realize your ex is shut down and cut off emotionally...this means that she is not thinking about any of this at all...not that she doesnt care about grandma she's just way to far off to even realize what she feels...her feelings are on pause. dont expect anything from her.
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