Rosa Tamora Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 411 wrote: "Women love to shame guys into pvssies so they can control them. It's load of crap it's also why you see so many women cheating and wearing pants in relationships." Please. Please don't generalize us. Not all women are like this. I know I'm not. I am aware that you probably have encountered some serious bitches and c**** out there, but we're not all like that. And the same goes for men. Sure, there are dicks out there, but one or two bad apples in the group doesn't mean that ALL men are dicks. Please don't make this into some women-hating discussion. The last thing Dash needs now is to think the next woman he meets might possibly do the same thing. Or that all of them just want to shame a man into doing something in order to control them.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 You know what these guys are Rosa. These guys giving advice to Dash are the type of guys that are friends with your boyfriend, are not even in the relationship, and tell their guys friends to get someone better. The type of guys that think that acting all manly and in charge is the way to go. Insecure little men. Like Einstein once said "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" .. i bet jamesy and this other dude that just wrote are just like that.. dumping every women they meet cause they dont rise to their wants and are just as insecure ... let me tell u something... for christ sake she told him about the invite to the pregame because those guys are going to the concert as well... SHE TOLD HIM!!! ..Dash is being OVER DRAMATIC AND ACTED OVER DRAMATIC .... communication COMMUNICATION.. i know they talked about not giving info to other people bla bla! SO WHAT!!! talk it over and COMMUNICATE! ...
collegeguy_24 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 You know what these guys are Rosa. These guys giving advice to Dash are the type of guys that are friends with your boyfriend, are not even in the relationship, and tell their guys friends to get someone better. The type of guys that think that acting all manly and in charge is the way to go. Insecure little men. Like Einstein once said "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" .. i bet jamesy and this other dude that just wrote are just like that.. dumping every women they meet cause they dont rise to their wants and are just as insecure ... let me tell u something... for christ sake she told him about the invite to the pregame because those guys are going to the concert as well... SHE TOLD HIM!!! ..Dash is being OVER DRAMATIC AND ACTED OVER DRAMATIC .... communication COMMUNICATION.. i know they talked about not giving info to other people bla bla! SO WHAT!!! talk it over and COMMUNICATE! ... Hopeless Girl, while your intentions may be good to help Dash out, please, for the love of all that is holy in the English language, please fix your grammar and spelling! It is atrocious! I am not insulting you on a personal level, and while I may disagree with some of your thoughts thus far, please fix your grammar and spelling, its so hard to read. Not to mention, it makes you sound childish and no one will take you seriously if you keep posting in this manner. Again, this is not a personal insult, just a request and some advice.
Author Dash123 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 (edited) So she gave me a call today. I answered and we talked it over, she was still very sorry(noticeably sobbing) for what she had done and remorseful. I told her I will forgive her, but I just need some time to balance out my emotions. She has come to understand this, and is willing to give me the time, but has told me she cannot wait forever because she also has a life to live, which I completely understand. I am currently going through finals in college which are very stressful, so im focusing more on my studies to keep my mind busy. This I believe will help me in the process to figure out if I can be with her or not. Opinions? Edited April 27, 2011 by Dash123
collegeguy_24 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 So she gave me a call today. I answered and we talked it over, she was still very sorry(noticeably sobbing) for what she had done and remorseful. I told her I will forgive her, but I just need some time to balance out my emotions. I am currently going through finals in college which are very stressful, so im focusing more on my studies to keep my mind busy. This I believe will ultimately help me figure out if I can be with her or not. Opinions? You made a good call, it gives you time to work on yourself, and school work is more important anyways. If you two can work it out then great, but you need make sure she knows she has to earn back your trust. Also, did you ask her why she felt the need to take the guys number against your expressed wishes?
Hopeless Girl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Hopeless Girl, while your intentions may be good to help Dash out, please, for the love of all that is holy in the English language, please fix your grammar and spelling! It is atrocious! I am not insulting you on a personal level, and while I may disagree with some of your thoughts thus far, please fix your grammar and spelling, its so hard to read. Not to mention, it makes you sound childish and no one will take you seriously if you keep posting in this manner. Again, this is not a personal insult, just a request and some advice. riiiiight collegeguy.... anyways.. yea u focus on your finals and deal with the rest later.. good luck
The_411 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 411 wrote: "Women love to shame guys into pvssies so they can control them. It's load of crap it's also why you see so many women cheating and wearing pants in relationships." Please. Please don't generalize us. Not all women are like this. I know I'm not. I am aware that you probably have encountered some serious bitches and c**** out there, but we're not all like that. And the same goes for men. Sure, there are dicks out there, but one or two bad apples in the group doesn't mean that ALL men are dicks. Please don't make this into some women-hating discussion. The last thing Dash needs now is to think the next woman he meets might possibly do the same thing. Or that all of them just want to shame a man into doing something in order to control them. Actually all men are dicks it's just that some don't use them. This discussion isn't a woman hating discussion it's more of an eye opener for dash to stick to his guns and stand on his principles. Actually I've yet to run into a woman that didn't try to shame me in way way or another and this includes my mother as well as every other female relative that know and love.
The_411 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 You know what these guys are Rosa. These guys giving advice to Dash are the type of guys that are friends with your boyfriend, are not even in the relationship, and tell their guys friends to get someone better. The type of guys that think that acting all manly and in charge is the way to go. Insecure little men. Like Einstein once said "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" .. i bet jamesy and this other dude that just wrote are just like that.. dumping every women they meet cause they dont rise to their wants and are just as insecure ... let me tell u something... for christ sake she told him about the invite to the pregame because those guys are going to the concert as well... SHE TOLD HIM!!! ..Dash is being OVER DRAMATIC AND ACTED OVER DRAMATIC .... communication COMMUNICATION.. i know they talked about not giving info to other people bla bla! SO WHAT!!! talk it over and COMMUNICATE! ... Hopeless girl, you picked an apt moniker because you're truly hopeless. Dash is not being dramatic. He's upset because his ex crossed his boundaries. His girlfriend disrespected him. Guess what, there are consequences for your actions... so maybe you can buy a clue and an ice pick to chip off your massive sense of self entitlement.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Fine some things you guys say are right.. but u got to admit some things I say have reason .. I say it cause Im like that and it had nothing to do with : going out with the guy, hooking up later, flirting, nothing.. just pure friendship... thats what im trying to imply.. if you would hear girls opinions for once you might get somewhere.. and talking things over is a good way to fix things.. not being all "caveman" about it .. if she were to start speaking a lot with the guy that's totally wrong .. and collegeguy this does not make me sound childish. maybe your relationships dont work cause of ur rutinary ways of keeping them... wonder why you got dumped ... now to 411 you bore me... honestly none of your insults make affect on me whatsoever.. well they do they just make me laugh... cause even though Im "hopeless" like u said.. never have I even once contacted my ex only he contacts me... im pretty strong r u college guy? ... anyways im sick of this ... good luck with your relationships
collegeguy_24 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Fine some things you guys say are right.. but u got to admit some things I say have reason .. I say it cause Im like that and it had nothing to do with : going out with the guy, hooking up later, flirting, nothing.. just pure friendship... thats what im trying to imply.. if you would hear girls opinions for once you might get somewhere.. and talking things over is a good way to fix things.. not being all "caveman" about it .. if she were to start speaking a lot with the guy that's totally wrong .. and collegeguy this does not make me sound childish. maybe your relationships dont work cause of ur rutinary ways of keeping them... wonder why you got dumped ... now to 411 you bore me... honestly none of your insults make affect on me whatsoever.. well they do they just make me laugh... cause even though Im "hopeless" like u said.. never have I even once contacted my ex only he contacts me... im pretty strong r u college guy? ... anyways im sick of this ... good luck with your relationships Watch yourself girl, your crossing a line you don't want to cross with me. I was simply asking you to type like an adult with proper grammar and spelling. As it is, your post above, with all the grammar and spelling mistakes make you look like your 4 years old. I know 5 year olds who can perform better then you in spelling and grammar. But don't you dare bring my past relationships in this.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Let me start off by saying that Hhh had a discussion with me and probably disagrees with me also but he never called me hopeless, childish or whatsoever... as for all the grammar and stuff... who cares? I dont care if I write with single letters here as least you know what Im saying ur just trying to push my buttons and Im gonna push em back ...... "if you cant take the heat stay out of the kitchen" .. and btw I never implied what was going on with yout relationship I only pointed a plausible hypothesis of what mightve went down... so you dont have to take it personally honey .. btw if you understand what Im saying dont try to insult me by saying Im a child when Im not the one.... I better not say it .... good luck again
Hopeless Girl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Watch yourself girl, your crossing a line you don't want to cross with me. I was simply asking you to type like an adult with proper grammar and spelling. As it is, your post above, with all the grammar and spelling mistakes make you look like your 4 years old. I know 5 year olds who can perform better then you in spelling and grammar. But don't you dare bring my past relationships in this. You brought it here
collegeguy_24 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 You brought it here Your the one that brought it, now drop it. You can't comment on my relationships unless you've read every single post I made in my threads in the coping section. So stay out of it! And look at your posts, its not just single letters, you can't even use punctuation. Do you even know what a comma or a period is? Also, I wasn't trying to push your buttons before, I asked you to write better in a nice and kind way. Your the one who started pushing buttons lady, and I can push back just as hard if not harder. Your acting like a child because you can't take a little criticism or even a polite request. FWI, I never called you hopeless that was someone else, and as for childish, I do believe I said your lack of proper grammar makes it seem you are childish and with an attitude. I also said that you may have good points in this thread, but its hard to read become your posts are hard to read. Your the one who took offense at nothing and started pushing buttons.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Your the one that brought it, now drop it. You can't comment on my relationships unless you've read every single post I made in my threads in the coping section. So stay out of it! And look at your posts, its not just single letters, you can't even use punctuation. Do you even know what a comma or a period is? Also, I wasn't trying to push your buttons before, I asked you to write better in a nice and kind way. Your the one who started pushing buttons lady, and I can push back just as hard if not harder. Your acting like a child because you can't take a little criticism or even a polite request. FWI, I never called you hopeless that was someone else, and as for childish, I do believe I said your lack of proper grammar makes it seem you are childish and with an attitude. I also said that you may have good points in this thread, but its hard to read become your posts are hard to read. Your the one who took offense at nothing and started pushing buttons. Yawn......
Overseer Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 In my opinion, you did the right thing. Obviously there are a few things that you could have done differently, to try make it seem better to you but in the end, just like other people have been saying; YOU and HER set boundaries. SHE went over the boundaries. She knew what she was doing and even if she didn't know the consequences it was not right. Now, if it was the first time, talking first may have been a good idea just to straighten things out, but if she has done it before you made the right decision for sure. At the end of the day if YOU aren't happy with the relationship YOU are in then YOU should end it. Simple.
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