bolase Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Hi LSers. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months, these last 4 months in a LDR and it's just hell, pretty much. The distance is making me question the whole relationship, which is not neccessarily a bad thing as we have our differences (we have very different religious beliefs, even though he says they aren't that different..they really are). The thing is, I fell for him knowing these differences and they worried him more than me at the start. Now he is fully invested in the relationship but I am so far past it..its like I've just stopped understanding what he says, all at once. Its messed up. I am also really busy at work at the moment and it's leading me to escape from that and worry about our relationship instead. Last time we talked, a week ago, I told him that i had doubts and they couldn't be worked out in a LDR. he then said he was thinking of coming over (we live an 8hr flight away from each other), but that just made me heart sink and I realised Im not really in this relationship any more.. Even I am confused as to whether I'm breaking up because of the distance, or the doubts about our beliefs ever finding compromise. Its been so light and all good news so far in our R, so bringing up a checklist of doubts just seems too heavy, plus unecessary. What is the kindest way to break up with him? Email then offer to video chat to get thoughts down clearly? I want to let him know that being in a LD thing with major doubts is just bringing me down and destroying me, also i feel guilty for him wasting time with an uncertain girl! yet I am rejecting him coming to see me as a temporary trip wouldn't solve much. I know i'm seeing it negatively, but I think realistically? I would love to have him in my life, we get along so well and were friends prior to dating. I feel like I would want him to move on and be happy, he deserves the best and I dont want to hold him back.
liverpool fc Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 just simply say you dont think its going to work out anymore for you being so far apart and being friends might be good for now. just tell him honestly how you feel. a video chat will probably be best then a email.
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