mortensorchid Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I am sort of but not really still hung up on the boyfriend I had at the end of last year. We were only together for about two months, he broke it off, then we had a few texts here and there. We pretty much do not talk anymore. Staying away, time helps heal all wounds, that's for sure. Anyway, the other week I went to the doctor for my annual appointment. I was told I might have something (tested for some abnormal cells, and possibly the HPV virus). I have an appointment for next month to do some further testing. I asked my OB/GYN if I should alert the previous boyfriend, he said if I wanted to then I could. I checked information with the CDC, HPV if left untreated may lead to genital warts. I decided to tell him just in case. So I sent a text asking him to call me. No response. I hated to do it, but I told him of this problem over a text message. I think it is a courtesy to do this for someone, whether or not you are with that person at the time or in the recent past. He has not responded. I hope that he did not take this text as a means to get attention, because it was not. I hope that someone would do this for someone else. I feel rather foolish putting myself on the line, but it's just one of those things that I feel we should get past our embarrassment and do. Hope someone else follows suit.
sunshinegirl Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Hey mortensorchid, sorry for your health news, as uncertain as it is at this point. I wasn't totally clear why now seemed like the right time to alert the ex. You don't know what it is yet... and it could still wind up being nothing. Perhaps that's why you didn't get a response? Fingers crossed that all goes well with the follow-up tests.
Nexus One Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 You did the right thing in my opinion. It's possible though that he already knew he had HPV and that he already knew it before he slept with you.
Anxiety Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 You did the right thing in my opinion. It's possible though that he already knew he had HPV and that he already knew it before he slept with you. According to the CDC there is no test for men.
Author mortensorchid Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 There is a form of testing for men, it could, unfortunately gravitate in the anus. My doctor told me that there are tests just for genital warts for men and women alike, HPV is one of the viruses that could lead to said warts. But as I have not heard from him, I am just going to leave the ball in his court if he does or doesn't want to get himself checked out. Did he know that he had this before me? I have no idea. I did SEE him and he did not have anything that looked odd or questionable on him. If so, then that's another reason why I shouldn't be with him anymore. If not, then not.
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