LayDark Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 (edited) So I have this ex, n we broke up a week ago due to a lot of trouble in our relationship. Whatsoever, I contacted him the next day begged n pleaded over the phone, you know... All the mistakes. Ive been through a break up once before so I did know it wouldn't help me any further to keep begging.. He ended up saying stuff like he loved me, but not our relationship, bla bla he even said he would never see me as just his ex I meant SO much more than that. Okay, fine, he asked me to initiate no contact until he found out wether he wants to be with me or not and I bowed for his words. A week later I came to think "Hell no, I do NOT wanna be waiting around for this bastard!" so I sent him a strongly polite, emotionless message "Hi I agree with your decision to break up, i have some big decisions to make, and I need time to think them over.. I would appreciate that u do not initiate contact with me during this period of time. I will be in contact when I'm ready." He replied that "he was glad that I agree," but the tables turned right? Now I'm the one who decides the contact. Oh yeah, And then... Just 5 hours later, his best friend, a mutual friend, wrote to me "He is completely over you now and moved on. I'm sorry" his FIRST long term relationship? 1,5 year gone in a week? Is he playing hard to get or something? I somewhat do NOT believe he already moved on! He wasted a lot of gifts, tears and memories on me then. Then MY best friend who sits behind him in class overheard that my ex KNEW i was talking to his best friend (and he was angry about it? Wtf?) so he KNEW i would get that message. Is it some stupid way to make me break no contact? Now his friend keeps contacting me like he wants to "spy" on my life or something.. Like "what are you doing?" "i'm bored" bla, and i'm a little sure it eventually will get back to my ex whatever i reply! Am I too suspicious around this? If not, what would make him act like this? Edited April 25, 2011 by LayDark Corrections
Scorpio6913 Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 So I have this ex, n we broke up a week ago due to a lot of trouble in our relationship. Whatsoever, I contacted him the next day begged n pleaded over the phone, you know... All the mistakes. Ive been through a break up once before so I did know it wouldn't help me any further to keep begging.. He ended up saying stuff like he loved me, but not our relationship, bla bla he even said he would never see me as just his ex I meant SO much more than that. Okay, fine, he asked me to initiate no contact until he found out wether he wants to be with me or not and I bowed for his words. A week later I came to think "Hell no, I do NOT wanna be waiting around for this bastard!" so I sent him a strongly polite, emotionless message "Hi I agree with your decision to break up, i have some big decisions to make, and I need time to think them over.. I would appreciate that u do not initiate contact with me during this period of time. I will be in contact when I'm ready." He replied that "he was glad that I agree," but the tables turned right? Now I'm the one who decides the contact. Oh yeah, And then... Just 5 hours later, his best friend, a mutual friend, wrote to me "He is completely over you now and moved on. I'm sorry" his FIRST long term relationship? 1,5 year gone in a week? Is he playing hard to get or something? I somewhat do NOT believe he already moved on! He wasted a lot of gifts, tears and memories on me then. Then MY best friend who sits behind him in class overheard that my ex KNEW i was talking to his best friend (and he was angry about it? Wtf?) so he KNEW i would get that message. Is it some stupid way to make me break no contact? Now his friend keeps contacting me like he wants to "spy" on my life or something.. Like "what are you doing?" "i'm bored" bla, and i'm a little sure it eventually will get back to my ex whatever i reply! Am I too suspicious around this? If not, what would make him act like this? Maybe the friend secretly likes you himself? If not, then yea, I think it is all game playing..
Author LayDark Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 (edited) Maybe the friend secretly likes you himself? If not, then yea, I think it is all game playing.. His friend has just gotten out a long term relationship as well, though he has been very "flirty" indeed... Do you know what exactly they could be wanting from me? Like... Is it some kinda reaction? Edited April 26, 2011 by LayDark
b89 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I think that turning the tables and taking what he said to you about no contact and turning it back on him was a bit of a silly thing to do. It probably put his nose out of joint so to speak, and he's probably pissed off about that now. As for his friend, avoid him. Dont reply to his messages, dont put yourself in a position where he can flirt with you or hang out with you, it will make the situation extremely messy. The best friend sounds like he has his own setof problems, theyre his own and leave him to deal with them. As for your boyfriend, i think youve confused things by turning what he asked around on him.
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