heartbroken555 Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Whats up everyone I need some advice, she broke up with me , 3 month ago I use to date this girl, she was18 when i met her, and i was 24, we dated for about 1yr and a couple of month. To tell you the truth, i was a real bum, smoking weed all the time, i didnt have a job, and i had no money. Eventually she broke up with me, and she said i need to get my life back together. Me and her had an awesome connection, when we first met, she was all over me, and told me numerous time i was the love of her life and she had never felt like this with anyone before. After she broke up, for the 1st month, we would txt, and email from time to time, but i was so confused i messed it up, i played some jalousy games and it backfired. She agreed to meet me and talk face to face, but i told her i didnt wanna see her if it was to be her friend. so she never called me back... she then went on vacation to cuba with some friends of hers, and when she came back, i couldnt resist the urge of calling her. i called her at 4 am woke her up, but she was nice, and we ended talking for an hour. she told me she met someone in cuba, and had a date with him when she came back, but it was nothing serious. but i panicked and i didnt know what to do. so i igrnored her when she wanted to meet up again.... then i ended up regretting it. fast foward to a month later, i accendently run into her at a club, i was there with a girl and a friend, i usually never go to this club, but she does, and im pretty sure she thinks i made it on purpose. anyways when i saw her she came to say hi, and was nice to me, and told me to have a good time, but at one point during the night, i got so drunk i went to see her, and asked her if she still loved me, and she said it was no time to talk about that now, and brushed me off. a week later i sent her a email saying i wanted her back, and didnt wanna play games anymore, and i wanted to see her and that i had quit weed. but she replied that she has now moved on, and that theres great chances of us never being together again, and that she met someone else, and that she didnt love me anymore, but she appreciated me. and that we could still be in contact by email if i wanted to... I wrote back to her, and told her i understand, and that i dont hate her, and that i wish one day we could be friends, but i asked her not to reply or email me anymore, till i would be ready, and that i would contact her then, and maybe we could be friends. but the truth is i kinda regret it now, cuz i closed the door again ! lol.. i want her to contact me, but knowing her, she wont... and i dont wanna look like a desparate idiot who doesnt know what he wants, and write her back...what should i do ? i know that i can move on and find another chick, but at the same time, i miss her too... and she really broke my heart...
JasonRules Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 You seem to be all over the place. Even if you hypothetically got back with your ex, you still would be feeling down due to your life situation (unemployed etc). I suggest go NC, focus on getting your life back in order and then try to reconnect with her. You need to have a stable foundation in order to build anything.
Author heartbroken555 Posted April 25, 2011 Author Posted April 25, 2011 well, i forgot to mention that i dont have a job , because i quit a yr ago to start a business, things havent been going too well, but now things are picking up, and money is coming in, but i guess you are right, i gotta get my **** together... but im just scared that im living with false hopes and then get dissapointed again, if she has a new bf by then or if she still doesnt want me!
JasonRules Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 well, i forgot to mention that i dont have a job , because i quit a yr ago to start a business, things havent been going too well, but now things are picking up, and money is coming in, but i guess you are right, i gotta get my **** together... but im just scared that im living with false hopes and then get dissapointed again, if she has a new bf by then or if she still doesnt want me! If you focus on your business and become successful your confidence will go through the roof and there will be dozens of high quality women after you and you will forget about your ex girlfriend very quickly. The key is to take the negative energy you were left with during the breakup and transform it into something positive to enhance YOUR LIFE My ex was growing more and more distant and didn't have the balls to end it with me, so I did it for her. That was almost 2 months ago. I have gone completely MIA since then and have used this time to focus on work and have been hitting the gym almost every single day. Result? My confidence has soared. I no longer sulk and look pathetic. And there are 5 other women who are actively pursuing me. And I'm talking about women of quality. Ultimately, you have to value and respect yourself first. Being a gentleman is one thing, but never become a doormat. Also, never beg someone to be with you. Always have the dignity to leave and never look back. In the end, it is their loss. They are just too blind to see it now.
Chi townD Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 She's already told you that she's done, and it's over. SHe's seeing someone else. Chalk it up to lessons learned and try to move on with your life.
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