Bateman Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I was 3 months NC with her and I suddenly saw her out with her friends last week. I approached her and she said something like "hey! I havent seen you in like forever" then sometime later she mentioned that it was awkward. I talked to her a few more times as we both got more drunk. Every time I approached her but a few times I would catch a glimpse from her and she would smile big at me. Then she and her friends left without saying goodbye. It was an awkward vibe even when I talked to her friends. I remained cool though and acted happy and outgoing. So last night I sent her a message on facebook saying that it was good to see her and to call me next time she's in town. Why do you think she feels awkward around me? I havn't gotten a response from her yet but I dont see why she wouldnt. She works nights and sleeps during the day so I'm going to give the response a few days. I just want to be her friend right now and I don't want it to be awkward.
TaraMaiden Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Dude, I've just looked at your thread history. She feels awkward, because she doesn't love you, and she knows you love her. She feels awkward because she knows you're still hoping (against all hope) to get her back - and that's the last place she wants to be. She feels awkward because she knows damn well, you don't want to 'just be her friend right now'. And buddy - so do you. Stop lying to us, and stop lying to yourself. This is just making the pain worse. quit talking to her, quit approaching her, quit wishing, hoping and wanting. It's - NOT - going - to - work!! You need to go complete NO CONTACT. But of course, you won't. You'll just keep banging on, hammering away, hoping to get her to change her mind, and have a change of heart. Forget it. The only thing you're doing is creating awkwardness, discomfort and ultimately (if you go on like this) you are going to truly Pi$$ her off and make her mad at you. I'm tired of seeing these 'hey guess this is...." threads. I want to see "I have gone completely No Contact and I an determined to move on with my life".... But you know what - I'm really not going to hold my breath. Jeesh dude - you really are your own worst enemy......
Author Bateman Posted April 25, 2011 Author Posted April 25, 2011 Dude, I've just looked at your thread history. She feels awkward, because she doesn't love you, and she knows you love her. She feels awkward because she knows you're still hoping (against all hope) to get her back - and that's the last place she wants to be. She feels awkward because she knows damn well, you don't want to 'just be her friend right now'. And buddy - so do you. Stop lying to us, and stop lying to yourself. This is just making the pain worse. quit talking to her, quit approaching her, quit wishing, hoping and wanting. It's - NOT - going - to - work!! You need to go complete NO CONTACT. But of course, you won't. You'll just keep banging on, hammering away, hoping to get her to change her mind, and have a change of heart. Forget it. The only thing you're doing is creating awkwardness, discomfort and ultimately (if you go on like this) you are going to truly Pi$$ her off and make her mad at you. I'm tired of seeing these 'hey guess this is...." threads. I want to see "I have gone completely No Contact and I an determined to move on with my life".... But you know what - I'm really not going to hold my breath. Jeesh dude - you really are your own worst enemy...... It's embarrassing, but all true. I was literally doing great before I saw her. I'm just ashamed that I have relapsed this hard. I need to get out of this town. Thanks for the input...
NoLifeKing Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I know what its like man, gf of 2.5 years dumped me and 3 weeks later she is involved in a long distance relationship with an older guy who lives 1000 miles away. just realize that she prolly does care about you and it meant something to her, but shes moving on and its prolly still awkward to see you because she still has some lingering feelings. you cant try too hard to be her friend, you still need time to yourself and so does she. she will want to be friends when shes ready, and who knows...maybe when she is ready you will be at the stage where you wont even want to. for me personally, I dont see how me and my ex can be friends anytime soon, but it will eventually happen b/c we go to the same college and share all the same friends
Author Bateman Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 I know what its like man, gf of 2.5 years dumped me and 3 weeks later she is involved in a long distance relationship with an older guy who lives 1000 miles away. just realize that she prolly does care about you and it meant something to her, but shes moving on and its prolly still awkward to see you because she still has some lingering feelings. you cant try too hard to be her friend, you still need time to yourself and so does she. she will want to be friends when shes ready, and who knows...maybe when she is ready you will be at the stage where you wont even want to. for me personally, I dont see how me and my ex can be friends anytime soon, but it will eventually happen b/c we go to the same college and share all the same friends This is a possibility but at this point I'm not going to bank on it. I'm going to continue moving on. Thanks.
SleeplessRomantic Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Dude, I've just looked at your thread history. She feels awkward, because she doesn't love you, and she knows you love her. She feels awkward because she knows you're still hoping (against all hope) to get her back - and that's the last place she wants to be. She feels awkward because she knows damn well, you don't want to 'just be her friend right now'. And buddy - so do you. Stop lying to us, and stop lying to yourself. This is just making the pain worse. quit talking to her, quit approaching her, quit wishing, hoping and wanting. It's - NOT - going - to - work!! You need to go complete NO CONTACT. But of course, you won't. You'll just keep banging on, hammering away, hoping to get her to change her mind, and have a change of heart. Forget it. The only thing you're doing is creating awkwardness, discomfort and ultimately (if you go on like this) you are going to truly Pi$$ her off and make her mad at you. I'm tired of seeing these 'hey guess this is...." threads. I want to see "I have gone completely No Contact and I an determined to move on with my life".... But you know what - I'm really not going to hold my breath. Jeesh dude - you really are your own worst enemy...... Your posts are a real kick in the ass and just what this forum needs. I really enjoy them. Thanks.
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