angielove Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 (edited) I just finished watching The Notebook. Not only does it make me cry for the obvious reasons, but it also makes me upset because I feel like I'll never find love like that. Is real life really that romantic? I've never experienced or witnessed anything close to that kind of love. Am I right in thinking that it only exists in movies? Anyone got any stories to change my mind? Edited April 25, 2011 by angielove
NoMagicBullet Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I've never seen the Notebook; I don't tend to watch romantic movies, because usually they're very unrealistic. Instead of asking if real life is ever or could ever be like that, have you considered reading or watching real life stories? They're not easy to find (some parts of reality don't sell well, I guess) but there are articles about couples who've been married for years and are still happliy together. Newspapers like to run stuff like that around Valentine's Day.
MissJoness Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I wont be watching that movie. Usually movies like that make me cry, and depressed about not finding love like that in my own life
FlyAway&ComeBack Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I feel like a man loves a woman deeply & doesn't show it as often as a woman would.. So therefore it could seem like a man loves a woman more. In my case.. I do believe that my most recent relationship. he loves me very deeply and that's why we're trying to work through things.. Little at a time. I am showing him that no matter what we go through I will be there with him. Even if we're not together.. "Real love sustains through all".. I do believe that.
Woggle Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I don't like to compare my life to fiction but I feel that I have something great.
Jazzari Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I've never seen the Notebook. But from looking at the trailer, it looks like a typical romantic movie where the couple has to overcome obstacles to be with each other. Maybe those obstacles make their love stronger. Maybe it just seems stronger because they are having to prove it. Maybe in reality they are no different from couples that don't have those obstacles. I don't know. But yes, true lasting love that is willing to fight does exist. But I think it only looks romantic to outsiders. It hurts to actually live that life.
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 But yes, true lasting love that is willing to fight does exist. But I think it only looks romantic to outsiders. It hurts to actually live that life. Agreed. I know some true married couples who have been in love for years. But they don't really have any angsty heart-burning stories to tell. It's more like...meet...fall in love...marriage...children...and throughout it all keeping a positive attitude and loving each other more every day.
Nexus One Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Only 1 in 10 couples stay in a crush and in love with each other for the rest of their lives. So yes it's relatively rare, but it does exist.
J200 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 lol, is this a joke? I'm a woman and I hate romantic crap like the Notebook. Asking if real life is like the Notebook is asinine. It's like asking if working for the CIA is really like Alias or if robots in the sky really exist like Transformers. No wonder men make fun of romantic women who expect life to be like a fairy tale. Let me tell you; There is no Santa Claus. The Notebook is not real. It's a freakin movie designed for sappy people. In real life when you get married you will be lucky if your man doesn't beat you or has sex with escorts and prostitutes on the side (most do). Or your husband will go to strip clubs and get a bj in the champagne room. Or he will shag his secretary or co worker and you will need marriage counseling. No, real love like the Notebook does not exist. Don't worry I'm not a crazy feminist... I have some for the guys too... In real life when you get married your wife will probably get fat and loose interest in sex.... lol That is real life. Get that romantic crap out of your mind. I can't believe movies like that touch people to the point they think it's real. I am a REALIST; even when I was a little girl I was already cynical and never believed in fairy tales or santa claus or dreamy weddings (I was ahead of my time).
J200 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Not only does it make me cry for the obvious reasons, but it also makes me upset because I feel like I'll never find love like that. You should cry for the fact that you even cried about the Notebook and thought even for a second that love like that exists in real life. Life is not like the movies; everything in the movies is bigger than life. How can you be 23 and not know that? No, real life sucks; people get cheated on, husbands bang whores and prostitutes and some wives get fat (not me though, I'm still a size 00 thank the heavens). In real life most people SETTLE, there is no amazing chemistry or fireworks and if there is fireworks it dies down after a few years and then the boredom and affairs start. It's actually much better to be alone and die alone than being in a relationship; that is real life.
Jazzari Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 J200 You are so afraid of believing in a fairy tale that you have trapped yourself in a nightmare. True love does exist. And I speak from experience.
runner Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 lol, is this a joke? I'm a woman and I hate romantic crap like the Notebook. Asking if real life is like the Notebook is asinine. It's like asking if working for the CIA is really like Alias or if robots in the sky really exist like Transformers. No wonder men make fun of romantic women who expect life to be like a fairy tale. Let me tell you; There is no Santa Claus. The Notebook is not real. It's a freakin movie designed for sappy people. In real life when you get married you will be lucky if your man doesn't beat you or has sex with escorts and prostitutes on the side (most do). Or your husband will go to strip clubs and get a bj in the champagne room. Or he will shag his secretary or co worker and you will need marriage counseling. No, real love like the Notebook does not exist. Don't worry I'm not a crazy feminist... I have some for the guys too... In real life when you get married your wife will probably get fat and loose interest in sex.... lol That is real life. Get that romantic crap out of your mind. I can't believe movies like that touch people to the point they think it's real. I am a REALIST; even when I was a little girl I was already cynical and never believed in fairy tales or santa claus or dreamy weddings (I was ahead of my time). sweet um, just a bit of caution with that cynicism eh ? otherwise, bang on
collegeguy_24 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 True love exists, just most times its not reciprocated by the other party so they get dumped, leaving the person who had true love miserable and alone and wishing for life to end so there is no more suffering.
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