happiness0421 Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Hi all - here is my original thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t273874/ Basically, this guy broke up with me ("afraid of getting hurt") and LITERALLY every day/every other day since the breakup, has reached out to me in some manner (texts/phone calls/emails). This has been going on for almost a month. Last Monday, we had what I considered to be the 'final conversation'. He apologized for everything and said that we should leave each other be (which I'd been doing the whole time). I agreed and said we should chalk this relationship up to an experience and move on with our lives. Wellll, I've been practicing NC since then; meanwhile, he has contacted me at least 5-6 times during the past week...asking to talk, leaving me voicemails, etc etc. I have ignored everything. My question is: should I just keep practicing NC until he fades away, or should I flat out ask him to leave me alone (like we agreed to in the first place)? I have already decided that I am NOT taking him back; under no circumstances (emotional issues or not) do I deserve to be broken up with over an issue that could've just been worked through. Thoughts?? Thanks all...
Kilty Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Hi From reading your original post the relationship was only 4 months which is not really that long a time to get to know someone. Also your original story had a couple of contradictions in that you said the relationship was "amazing" but then told him that you thought it was moving too fast ? From a male perspective, a girl saying that to you out of the blue gives only completely negative feelings and your only option is to fear the worst. He may have acted a bit extreme in ignoring you and deleting you from FB etc but if he was expecting to get dumped in the near future then it's explainable particularly after what happened to him in the past. A different story if he had maybe proposed in such a short space of time and you told him that. Did you try and explain or reassure him why you said that ? Maybe he was looking for a reaction when he deleted you from FB ? It seems that deep down you possibly werent that into him and nothing to do with you being moody ? Anyway i digress - You have to make it clear to him that there is no going back and if he contacts you again you will be taking it further.
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