jenjen23 Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 when my babydaddys friends told me my man cheated on me. i flipped the script to get him back i slipped up one night. i thought i would feel better but i felt worse than ever. i started never wanting him to touch me. he started to feel alil distant ...and i felt like i was in the street just walking away from him. (dream) then he violated probation which is so friggin childish and went back to jail. im just tired of this hes 30 yrs old and acts like hes 20 . we act so much alike tho were like bonnie and clyde and i loved him once. i just need some insight if its ok to break up with someone whos in jail. which i told him i was gonna be here when he gets out . but i cheated and i dont think i can look him n the eyes and lie. if its just better this way and i dont want my child around all this. arguements and stuff. i know there will be arguements about everything his family tells him everything i do. if i leave the house or talk on my cell phone . his dad will let him kno. so i have no privacy. insight plz
Kelemort Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 ..Well this is certainly quite the situation. You know cheating was wrong already, and the only reason I'm not going off is because you strike me as being remorseful and uncertain about the actions you took, instead of trying to cover it up. So kudos to you on having the maturity to face up to what you did wrong. First thing's first: you need to be honest with this guy. Explain what you did and why you did it. And how long's he going to be in jail for? If it really is jail, I'm assuming under a year. He doesn't sound like much of a good influence for your child, however, and I'd assume you're still fairly young. My advice is to leave. If you aren't already, find a job and start supporting yourself and your child. Go back to school. Start volunteering for an organization or join AmeriCorps or something. I assume that you live with his parents, so you need to rectify this situation as soon as possible. Don't start dating the guy with whom you cheated. That could be a possibility somewhere down the line, but there's also the issue that if you do date him, sooner or later he will wonder if you're cheating on him. I think it's entirely rational to think, "If she'll cheat with me, she'll cheat on me, too."
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