LK30 Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Hey all, I think I'm going through one of those reflective periods of time as every day I just seem to think 'where is my life going' whilst if feels others around me are just getting on with it. Being 31 going on 32, I'm single and have done the same job for about 5 years. Don't get me wrong, I have great friends, lovely family, job is going ok (altho few promotion prospects!) and I'm in good health. You may've noticed the one thing I've missed here is lovelife! I've read lots of self help books, been on an assertiveness course, and tried to change my personality a lot to attract someone. I'm a really helpful person and although I'm not spiritual, I do honestly believe I'm on this planet to help others. I do really enjoy it, and I hope good things will happen to me if I do my best to help others. Strangely I'm happy at work, get on well with people and feel like I play an important role at making others feel happy. I thought being happy, having good humour and helping others would helpy attract someone into my life. To be honest I've never felt in love, nor met someone I feel I could spend the rest of my life with. I keep thinking I need to change something, despite many of my factors being in balance and going well. Perhaps travelling, moving jobs, changing my appearance, I just don't know. I'm starting to think it's some sort of sign that my special person won't come into my life until I physically change something in my life - I just don't know what and why! Not sure if I'm asking a question here, but perhaps I need a life coach?!!
cerridwen Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 (edited) Do you lead a very active social life? You mentioned friends but do you make a point of spending time with them often? You sound so lovely, I suspect if only you were exposed to more women, one would snatch you up immediately. Edited April 25, 2011 by cerridwen
Author LK30 Posted April 25, 2011 Author Posted April 25, 2011 Thanks cerridwen and ross. You've both asked quite similar questions and the bizarre thing is I work in education, which is female dominated but just not found one who's single as many girls in mid to late 20's have settled down so it's a bit harder to find one. I'm not as easy on the eye as my brother so I guess if I looked a bit better I might get girls appearing and flirting!!
Shaun-Dro Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Thanks cerridwen and ross. You've both asked quite similar questions and the bizarre thing is I work in education, which is female dominated but just not found one who's single as many girls in mid to late 20's have settled down so it's a bit harder to find one. I'm not as easy on the eye as my brother so I guess if I looked a bit better I might get girls appearing and flirting!! They would flirt if you were a badboy or jerk that can make them laugh. If you're just a nice, honest and decent guy, they will pass you up or just be friends with you. You're not interesting enough to them. Take it from me on experience here.
nikkihush Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Stop trying so hard. Stop trying to change yourself and better yourself and be happy and satisfied with yourself JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! Realize your worth as a human being, with a good heart, a strong mind and a kind soul and then maybe you will have more of that appeal that women find magnetic. It's called "confidence." And it doesn't just come from being thin, or having perfect teeth, or a great head of hair. It comes from within......Not all of us like bad boys or jerks. Some REAL women care about REAL qualities in men! Good luck hun!
Ross MwcFan Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Thanks cerridwen and ross. You've both asked quite similar questions and the bizarre thing is I work in education, which is female dominated but just not found one who's single as many girls in mid to late 20's have settled down so it's a bit harder to find one. I'm not as easy on the eye as my brother so I guess if I looked a bit better I might get girls appearing and flirting!! Maybe you need to put yourself out there around women more? I don't think being around women just at work, is always enough. You say you have friends, do you meet many women through your friends? A lot of relaionships happen through meeting someone through a friend.
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