mr.dream merchant Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 ....the only time one wants to be around women, outside of friends and family, is when I'm horny. That's the cold hearted truth when it comes to me. :/. Totally content with the day to day grind (school -> work -> gym) and hanging out with my friends. My plate is full and that want for a LTR has disappeared. :/ I guess I have options but I rarely ever take them up. Perhaps they contribute to the lack of importance I put on my suitettes and relationships.
Cee Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Doesn't seem cold hearted to me. Your priorities at the moment are work, family, friends, and being fit. It would be hard to squeeze in an LTR without giving something up. I am scratching my head over the word "suitettes." I'm not familiar with the word. What does it mean? Just curious.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted April 25, 2011 Author Posted April 25, 2011 Doesn't seem cold hearted to me. Your priorities at the moment are work, family, friends, and being fit. It would be hard to squeeze in an LTR without giving something up. I am scratching my head over the word "suitettes." I'm not familiar with the word. What does it mean? Just curious. Oh that? Just some word I made up for female suitors.
zengirl Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I don't think there's anything 'wrong' or 'cold-hearted' with not being in the mood for a relationship, as long as you're honest with people. And this is coming from someone who doesn't particularly like you, and values people who've always valued relationships. Just because that's a value I enjoy doesn't mean I think everyone who's always put romantic relationships at a "low priority" level is "cold-hearted." That seems a bit extreme.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I don't think that that is cold-hearted necessarily BUT there could be an attachment/intimacy issue. Lots of guys have em. Causes shame to them. Just watch for if you feel shame and are trying to avoid it. Post up if you find that to be the case.
Intricategirl Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Eh, so? I don't see the problem with it. I'm in the same boat right now. I'm doing some hardcore studying to get into law school, and I think the worst thing that could happen to me right now is falling in love. On one hand, I feel like I should be upset over it and want a real relationship. But it's just not worth it to me right now. I cannot imagine a man on the planet that is worth giving up my future. But I also know it means that I'm VERY likely to be alone until Fall 2012, until I get wherever I'm going for law school, settle into the town, start meeting people, etc. That's a long, dry stretch, and I'm not keen on it, but right now, it's better than the alternative. I'd just strongly caution you that if you hookup, be honest. It's better to tell a girl you're only looking for a fling or FWB and have her walk away than deal with the headache of having her fall in love and plan out her future with you because you deceived her to get into bed. It's just not worth lying about, cause it will cause an insane amount of drama later.
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