bama_bbq Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I've already posted about this scenario before, but my question is now about how to do this, not whether or not I should. I've been on three dates with this girl, who I didn't know before we started dating. We've communicated almost solely through text. I asked her on a fourth date, and she didn't reply till a day later and gave me an obviously lame excuse with no suggestion about rescheduling. That was a week ago. I didn't really feel sparks with her, and she probably didn't either, hence the rejection. But I would really like to be friends with her (as discussed in my previous post). My plan is to tell her that I don't think we're a good fit for a dating relationship and that I get the vibe she feels the same way, but I hope we can keep hanging out as friends. I've written up an email draft and am about to send it to her, but I'd like to know if this is too impersonal. Since she blew me off by text, I feel like I'm not out of line doing this, but I'm wondering if I owe her a phone call. It's only been three dates and no sex, and she has sort of rejected me, so calling it a "break up" seems excessive. What do you guys think?
marigold7 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 yea I think it'd be better if you actually called her if you want to stay friends. email is impersonal and should be reserved for extreme cases where you never want to see the person again. (ok i'm exaggerating. but still.)
maysj18 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 I think It's awesome you have the decency to be honest with her, even though she seems cold. Depending on how well you got along, I think an e-mail would work fine. You've only seen eachother 3 times, so a phone call explaining yourself may be a bit much.
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