Being happy for an ex

[Lilmisus]

Today, I talked to my ex somewhat about rumors I'd been hearing and whatnot. I told him that the only way I'd stay at the job is if all the rumors ended and if he would just tell me the flat out truth.

 

When I said that I heard that he left me for his new girlfriend (who he started dating right after he broke up with me, and lied about it) he said that he didn't. He asked if I wanted to know the real reason he left me, and when I told him yes, he told me the exact same thing that he told me when he ended things with me a month ago. I told him that I was actually happier when we broke up, but with hearing everything and seeing them together it just hurt like crazy, and asked if he understood where I was coming from, which he said he did. But he told me that I should be happy for him, since he's with someone who he has feelings for, and that he's happy now. He said that if I started dating anyone else, I had his blessing and he'd be happy for me, even if we worked together. Apparently, he wasn't as happy with me, and didn't have as strong of feelings for me as I did for him, which of course hurts. He said that he liked me, but I liked him and even loved him far more than he did.

 

After he left, I made it clear to everyone that I didn't want to hear anything to do with him and his new girl, and I didn't even want to hear his name from anyone. I told people that I need to move on, and that I can't do it with hearing things about him constantly. People understood, and it made me feel better about things.

 

I'm just wondering, how long does it take for you to feel happy for an ex? Would you be capable to be happy for him/her if you were in my spot - which is working with them multiple times a week, knowing that they started dating soon after the breakup, and that he is happier with her? I wanted nothing but the best for him when we were together, and still do, and I know that if she hurts him in anyway, that I'd want to hurt her for it, but still though, it hurts to know how much happier he is with someone else, so soon after the breakup. I'm still moving forward though, even though this is probably the hardest thing I've had to go through - I just know that I'm getting stronger each day and each time I see them, and that I have a bright future ahead of me and I'll spend it with someone who really makes me happy as well. I'm just trying to look forward to finding the guy to share that happiness with right now.