Jon10 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Hi, My girlfriend of four months spilt up with me on the phone a couple of days ago....and only four days after booking flights to come and stay with me for a weekend in May! So now she will still be coming to visit but will be staying with my cousin the entire duration (same town) and would rather not spend any time with me - for fear of being horrible to me! Her reason for breaking up is she finds the distance element is too difficult now and dosn't feel like putting the same effort into the relationship. We both live in the UK. The thing I can't understand is why she would book the flights and sound genuinely happy about it but then drop the bomb on me so soon afterwards! I can't figure her out anymore....its hot and cold...saying she misses me one minute then finishing with me the next....she would sing my praises to her family, dropping comments about me being "the one" and even suggesting we move away together. We had questioned the relationship on my last trip to her home, but ended up having such a great weekend together that we decided to keep things alive between us.(about 3 weeks ago) When I returned back home from visiting her she did ask me about how we're supposed to feel about things now that we questioned the relationship(distance being the issue). Then she decides to book flights saying we should just enjoy things and not get so heavy on issues. Finally, two days ago her cousin got talking to me and was very surprised to hear that my girlfriend had finished with me, but assured me that my ex can be "quite hard work", highly emotional and has a tendency to say things that may hurt some people. She also said that I would certainly get to meet up with my ex girlfriend in three weeks time but that I should use No Contact until that time...she also reckons that my ex will be missing me by the time we meet up....but i'm not so sure. I feel that everything hinges on what happens in three weeks time....there are so many things I want to say to her and I don't know how she will be feeling when that time comes. I would like to work things out with her and make her aware that I have also thought about moving away together in the future. Is No Contact really going to help in this situation? I feel like i'm just ignoring her now...I have been silent since the breakup call. Any advice on how to proceed would be much appreciated! Thankyou. (Apologies for the long post!)
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