ThonyBellard Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Hi this is my first time posting a thread here so here it goes..I've been NC for a month and couple of days and the only two messages I got from her is "that she was sorry what had happen to me at work and she hope that my life goes well" (I got layed off of work because of bs problems at the store(we both worked at the same store..how hard is that huh..lol).this was was on the 15th of April (I didn't say anything and deleted it as soon as I got it)well.Today she sent me a message at 11:12am saying "Happy Easter.Even tho we don't talk anymore u should know that i miss my friend." Idk why I did this I've had look at everything on this site know the rules of NC and looked at alot of ppl stories on here..just so I don't make any mistakes(which I have alot back in February with her)anyway at 2:45pm I texted her back saying"Thank u..i miss u too but i just cant take it how we cant stand what we say to each other..nothing but stupid drama..getting mad at each other for no damn reason..I know I've been wrong to u..and I don't blame u for how u feel..like i abandon u..but really i needed to change for myself..hope u have a good day babe."the crazy thing is I probably wouldn't of not said anything if I didn't go to church this morning..for some reason it really made me think about her plus her texting me at that time..ugh..anyway then she texted me back saying "I know..and thanks."..im thinking about just going back to NC it's better that way..so what do u think about this situation..can u help me out..(by the way she dumped me..im 22 and she is 26)
iceweasel6 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Hey, Sorry you fell on hard times. I think you know what is best for you - and I think you were spot on when you said going back to NC is better. It's honestly about getting you into a right frame of mind where you are confident, and in control. Focus all of your energies all 110% on sorting you out first. Do not think of her at this point. You are the only thing that matters. Focus on getting a great job, hanging out with you buddies, working out or playing sports (whatever it is you like to do) and create the best you that can be created. I believe there is a version of you waiting inside. He wants to be in control, positive, happy, friendly, and strong. There is no better time than today to start to create this person - and be the best you, that you can possibly be. But first, no more texting, unless she says something profound. No more I miss you's - cuz you don't need her, or miss her (thats a sign of insecurity). If she text you, I miss you as friend, you can politely respond back - "Thank you." No more, no less. No responding when someone is reaching out makes you look like an a**! Just don't tell her more than "thank you". How are you feeling otherwise?
Author ThonyBellard Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 Thanks im fine and yea I shouldnt of not said that..and im not gonna make a mistake like that again.. She texted me that same day(it was night time)saying(Can we at least be friends on fb(facebook just to let u know)again so i can know ur doing alright?I wonder how u are often"..then I said(really now?..well ok u can) then she texted me back saying that she"yeah,we were really close, and just bc I got angry and backed away doesn't mean i don't care"(cause she deleted me off her facebook which I didn't really cared)so I told her to send me a request so I re-added her again..so she texted me back saying "thanks"..sometimes I wish I didn't do it:( but that doesn't mean i'ma be online on there or update anytime soon..i'ma just stay away from facebook and stay in NC for now...I got alot of things I need to get done with..knowing her she'll let me know if she want to try again..right now..I cant worry about her...even tho I do think about her at night sometimes..I gotta stop making mistakes like that.
Author ThonyBellard Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 update..well she's in a relationship with luis(one of my best friends where I used to work)glad I never contacted her..lol..and I deactivated my facebook account Im too busy for bull**** like this..but it still hurts bad knowing I really wasn't good enough in her eyes..i know i was..she's going to realise that soon..well once again I'ma have to start over from scratch..it's so hard to get to know a girl Im attracted to(maybe im just to picky)but right now im alone..and feeling sick in my stomach alittle..just glad I got tons of things I need to do or else I'll probably be in withdrawn mode..sigh:(
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