CHSH Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I'm not a regular visitor to this forum and I've only ever posted once. (That situation is now resolved after a lot of talking.) My SO came over at the end of February and stayed with me for a month. It was incredible just being with him day and night. It wasn't easy at all separating and certainly the first couple of weeks was tremendously difficult that I just ended up bursting out crying for no reason or waking up and panicking that he's not beside me. The problem is this. Although we have always been affected whilst we're apart(as all couples are, I'm sure.), lately it seems that he is severely affected. After leaving England, he had moved into a flat so he now lives on his own (after being in the Uni dorm) and his family is not close by. (I'm thinking reverse culture shock?) I was meant to go there for 3 months at the end of April but due to some unforeseen circumstances, that plan is now cancelled. Due to this, both of us have been feeling really down as it means that we cannot see each other again for at least a year. Adding all of his Uni stress, financial stress, being away from his family and myself seems to have really got him down. I think I am more mentally prepared and stronger than he is (Due to childhood issues.) and I hate knowing that he feels so lost. What can I do to help my SO? I want to support him and be strong for him. He has been there for me many times and I just want to take care of him. Anyone been in a similar situation? I just feel so helpless because I know exactly how he feels and I can't be there to support him through it. If there's any suggestions, please, let me know. He is always so bright and cheerful, even in adversity. It pains me to see him like this.
chelsealeigh Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Have you tried sending care packages?(: Ive done that and filled it with his favorite Things along with some of mine and try To add something that holds memories For the two of you guys! (:
d0rk Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 Have you tried sending care packages?(: Ive done that and filled it with his favorite Things along with some of mine and try To add something that holds memories For the two of you guys! (: These are good suggestions, just carry on showing that you love him and reassurance. Perhaps have a talk with him and explain how you feel, you miss him etc but time is just that time and you will see each other very soon. I have periods where I get really down with work stress etc, but my SO always cheers me up...we watch movies together (streaming at the same time whilst on the phone or cam) it's the closest thing we'll have until we see each other again. Try sending random little love notes or talk about your plans and futures. Just distract from the present and it soon passes by.
Author CHSH Posted April 25, 2011 Author Posted April 25, 2011 Thanks for the suggestion guys. ^^ I was thinking of a care package for his birthday but maybe I should send one sooner. Making a video is in there somewhere too~ hmm...
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