Said she will contact me soon but will she

[vermonter15]

I'm going to make this sort and to the point. Me and a friend decided to pursue being more than just friends because we have huge chemistry. We had strong feelings with each other. She first told me she loved me and wants us to be together and and I told her I love her as well. She's been dealing with a lot of health issues and I told her that I wanted to be there for her but she refused to allow me to deal with these issues alongside her and said that she needs to deal with these issues first before she has a man in her life but wanted us to stay close and grow closer. The health issues involved surgery. As much a I have helped her, she said I'm worth the wait and I made a difference in her life and wanted us to be married someday. About mid March she stopped talking to me. It's been rough because I really do love her and care for her so I feel I deserve an honest answer. She wrote me an email and said she will be around soon. I replied with an email asking if she was OK and what is going on and if she doesn't want me around she should let me know because we all deserve an honest answer and closure but I never got a reply. I wrote a second email 2 weeks later but stated I wanted her to know that I care and that's it I stopped with the emails. I sent a text the last day in March to see how she was and I got a reply a month ago saying shes a lil depressed right now and would contact me soon. I admit its rough but there is nothing more I can do as I have done enough and I don't want to contact over and over again. I have so many gifts that she gave me that I feel I need to throw out because its painful to deal with this especially the friendship ball. If she doesn't want me in her life she should tell me. Any thoughts or opinions

[TaraMaiden]

Actions speak louder than words.

She has told you she doesn't want you in her life right now.

She told you she wanted to deal with her health issues on her own.

her actions now, absolutely prove her statements....

 

So if I were you I would back off, and go silent.

 

Leave her be, and re-gain some of your independence.

Let your actions speak to her.

Once she sees you have disappeared off her radar, she will contact you.

Or maybe she won't.

Either way, you shouldn't put your life on suspend and let things pass you by simply because someone says "I'm not ready right now, but hang around and I'll see how I feel at some future point."

 

It's not fair on you, and she has really no right to expect this.

If she has physical and depression issues, this will bring a whole load of new and different problems, so actually, you have to Decide whether you really, selflessly want to be able to deal with that.

 

Because it takes skill and dedication to be able to do that and keep yourself protected from the kickbacks.

 

Think carefully.

And for now - keep away, and keep quiet.

[vermonter15]

I have started that process already so she will not be able to find me easily. I understand all you said but all she had to say was I do not want to be with you anymore I'm fine with that but like you said disappear and I have started that. Thanks.