cleansingtides Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Here's the situation: A guy likes this amazing girl. The girl likes him back. They go on a couple of dates. Just as the guy started feeling like he could have a meaningful relationship with the girl, she calls it off. The girl is going to college soon and decided that a relationship with a timestamp would be too painful. She assures that nothing will change but within a few days admits it would be too painful to continue hanging out one on one. The relationship goes from constant contact to the occasional text. My reasoning: Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Sure things may get hard in the future but you never know. Maybe this relationship could withstand the distance. Maybe not. People may comment oh she's just trying to be nice she doesn't like you anymore, but trust me though it's hard to explain through text that is false. Also to consider is the fact that she hurt me significantly doing this. Is the kind of person that does that the kind of person I still want? I think about her all the time and it's been weeks. What should I do? Who's the irrational one? Help me please.
sabienne Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Are you going to college too? I say from experience that college changes everything. I know it's really, really ridiculously hard right now but you need to let her go. If she still wants to be with you, she will reach out one day. And no, you are not irrational. Thinking constantly about a person you care deeply for is normal.
D-Lish Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I am sure she does like you. You can like someone a lot and not be ruled by your emotions. I think her decision is based on logic. She's young, going off to college, entering into a huge new stage of her life. It wouldn't be logical to get involved in a new relationship. The circumstances have little to do with her not liking you. In a situation like this, the timing is bad.
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