Lilmisus Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Would you choose to not date someone who was a virgin or highly inexperienced? Say, everything about them is great, it's perfect, everything you want in a partner, but their lack of sexual history is the only thing that's in your way, would you say no to them based on that fact alone? Or would you break up with someone, even if you'd been together for a while, because you didn't want to take their virginity?
Johnny85 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 What is the age difference? If the age difference is negligible, and everything else is great in your relationship, I think you are making a big deal out of nothing. If he/she wants to be intimate with you, that his his or her decision. *Free will* hehe
Professor X Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Would you choose to not date someone who was a virgin or highly inexperienced? Say, everything about them is great, it's perfect, everything you want in a partner, but their lack of sexual history is the only thing that's in your way, would you say no to them based on that fact alone? Or would you break up with someone, even if you'd been together for a while, because you didn't want to take their virginity? I'd shot them. Virgin people shouldn't live.
TaraMaiden Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Well, speaking as an ex-virgin myself, I'd be pretty pissed off if someone stopped dating me because of that reason. I mean, how's a virgin supposed to get to ex-virgin without knowing someone...??
leftfordead2 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I'd shot them. Virgin people shouldn't live. You should have died long ago before you lost your virginity then..lol
Kelemort Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I've never seen being a virgin as an issue, but "non-virgin" often carries lots of issues for virgins entering into relationships - often because virgins past a certain age are probably holding out for marriage or at least for a lifelong partner. A virginal partner would never be an issue.
Disillusioned Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Be careful. Just because someone's a virgin doesn't mean they don't have a very dirty mind.
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Be careful. Just because someone's a virgin doesn't mean they don't have a very dirty mind. :lmao::lmao: true this
tigressA Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I dated two virgins. The first one I knew was a virgin before we started dating. The second one I knew had been a virgin only because he told me after we had sex. If neither one had ever told me, I would never have even suspected. It's really not a big deal.
denise_xo Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Would you choose to not date someone who was a virgin or highly inexperienced? Say, everything about them is great, it's perfect, everything you want in a partner, but their lack of sexual history is the only thing that's in your way, would you say no to them based on that fact alone? Or would you break up with someone, even if you'd been together for a while, because you didn't want to take their virginity? My partner was a virgin when I met him. It's not an issue to me. However, I wouldn't get involved with someone who doesn't want sex outside of marriage.
Author Lilmisus Posted April 24, 2011 Author Posted April 24, 2011 But how would you know the person is a virgin unless that person told you? I'm a virgin and if I started dating a woman, why would I tell her that? She wouldn't notice it so she would never know I'm a virgin or was a virgin before I met her. Apparently my ex is telling people he broke up with me because I'm a virgin, which I'm not, so it's not only the person in question that chooses to tell you in order for you to find out. This has gotten around to everyone, including the guy that I was hoping to start dating, and once he found out, he backed off and came up with a bs reason to not ask me out. I didn't find out till yesterday though through a mutual friend about it, since my crush told her what he heard. I was just curious if others would feel the same way as he does. Plus, I'm curious why my ex would do this to me, it feels like he doesn't want me to be with him, or anyone else. Some people just make you shake your head..
somedude81 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I would never refuse date a girl because she is a virgin. That's ridiculous. I think I'd actually want somebody more if I knew they were a virgin. I would try to make the experience very special for her, and she'd probably remember me for the rest of her life.
Nexus One Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 (edited) Apparently my ex is telling people he broke up with me because I'm a virgin, which I'm not, so it's not only the person in question that chooses to tell you in order for you to find out. This has gotten around to everyone, including the guy that I was hoping to start dating, and once he found out, he backed off and came up with a bs reason to not ask me out. I didn't find out till yesterday though through a mutual friend about it, since my crush told her what he heard. I was just curious if others would feel the same way as he does. Plus, I'm curious why my ex would do this to me, it feels like he doesn't want me to be with him, or anyone else. Some people just make you shake your head.. Lots of guys actually like the concept of female virgins. The only reason I can think of that that guy didn't want to get involved with you due to him hearing you're a virgin is that perhaps he himself is very sexually active and prefers experienced girls. Him thus being of the opinion that experienced girls can please him better than inexperienced virgins. The guys that only want such girls are generally not boyfriend material though, so perhaps you dodged a bullet there. Edited April 24, 2011 by Nexus One
Professor X Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Apparently my ex is telling people he broke up with me because I'm a virgin, which I'm not, so it's not only the person in question that chooses to tell you in order for you to find out. This has gotten around to everyone, including the guy that I was hoping to start dating, and once he found out, he backed off and came up with a bs reason to not ask me out. I didn't find out till yesterday though through a mutual friend about it, since my crush told her what he heard. I was just curious if others would feel the same way as he does. Plus, I'm curious why my ex would do this to me, it feels like he doesn't want me to be with him, or anyone else. Some people just make you shake your head.. Oh boy. Never thought I'd live to see the day that being virgin is a curse. In a more serious note, I highly doubt any man would push you away only due that simple fact (even though it's not true in reality), in fact, I think most men prefer a virgin. I think your ex' have been spreading more rumors about you that you don't know.
Yumisekai Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I don't know the issue here. I mean... what the hell, man? Why would you reject a chance to give the virgin a new and exciting experience? It's like travelling to a new place where you've never been. You learn lots of stuff about that place. You meet wonderful people and make new friends. And if it was good to travel to that place, chances are that you'll travel there again. For an inexperienced girl, it's the same analogy. Many people are dumbassed by the fact that virgin is associated with something bad. It probably is in the first try, there's blood and stuff. But after that, it gets very nice. We humans are all virgin at the start. If you reject being with a virgin, that's a choice of yours. You have nothing to lose, but...you can't miss an opportunity like that, man.
Author Lilmisus Posted April 24, 2011 Author Posted April 24, 2011 Oh boy. Never thought I'd live to see the day that being virgin is a curse. In a more serious note, I highly doubt any man would push you away only due that simple fact (even though it's not true in reality), in fact, I think most men prefer a virgin. I think your ex' have been spreading more rumors about you that you don't know. See, I always thought the same thing. When many guys heard that I was a virgin a few years ago, they would start pursuing me like crazy to the point where it was really weird. The only thing I can think of with this guy is that he knew that my ex and I were together for a year, and the thought of having zero sex in a year is probably a major turn off for him. Maybe thinks that I'm waiting till marriage or something like that, I have no idea. But I'm not about to bring it up to him. Personally, I want a healthy relationship, including a healthy sex life from my next partner, so for him to probably assume there'd be no sex is kind of disappointing and upsetting for me, haha. But he told a friend that he was thinking about asking me out, and he was asking about me and all this stuff, but the reason he wasn't going to (after saying what he "found out" about me) was because he's never off to take me out. Even for lunch before work..which we open at 330. I never had an issue going out on dates with my ex when we were together and we work as much as this guy does, so I know it's just an excuse he pulled out from no where. Especially since he told me just the other day that he works so much so he could take girls out on dates and go hang out with friends and whatnot. And I know he's been spreading a lot of rumors about me, though he denies it. Too many people know too many things about me that only he knew. I also heard that I'm trying to win him back..which I actually told him I don't want him back at all.
Darren Taylor Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 It's hypocritical to dump someone for being virgin because everyone was a virgin at some point. No one was born with the ability to give good head. My only concern would be her cheating on me because she never got to experience any other d*ck. Virginity in itself isn't the issue.
Author Lilmisus Posted April 24, 2011 Author Posted April 24, 2011 It's hypocritical to dump someone for being virgin because everyone was a virgin at some point. No one was born with the ability to give good head. My only concern would be her cheating on me because she never got to experience any other d*ck. Virginity in itself isn't the issue. Hey..I sure was born with the ability to give great head But, I don't think it's hypocritical to dump someone for being a virgin. Some guys, it just doesn't float their boat. They want an active sex life, and if they know that they wont be getting any at all from a virgin, what's the point in dating her after you find out that she is still one? I think it's wrong to be with someone for a long time after finding out that they're a virgin, and then dumping them for that reason. Why wasn't it an issue before? What suddenly made it to where them being a virgin was enough of a deal breaker for you that you couldn't take it anymore?
johan Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I don't think it would be that big a deal. The first time with someone is often a little awkward anyway. After you've done it several times you start to figure each other out. It doesn't take long for a virgin to start understanding what to do and how to move (if it's in them to enjoy it in the first place), and at that point, the virginity is just a memory.
somedude81 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 The only thing I can think of with this guy is that he knew that my ex and I were together for a year, and the thought of having zero sex in a year is probably a major turn off for him. Maybe thinks that I'm waiting till marriage or something like that, I have no idea. Yeah, that would be a big deal. If I knew a guy and girl were dating for a long time, and to hear that they didn't have sex. I'd assume the girl is really hung up about sex and not worth my time.
irc333 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Would you choose to not date someone who was a virgin or highly inexperienced? Say, everything about them is great, it's perfect, everything you want in a partner, but their lack of sexual history is the only thing that's in your way, would you say no to them based on that fact alone? Or would you break up with someone, even if you'd been together for a while, because you didn't want to take their virginity? I would actually think it would be pretty lousy of someone to not date someone based on this. Also, you're not doing them any good by dumping them for their virginity, when you could be the the one that could introduce them to sex. Makes sense, right? Basically, if every woman that this poor fellow ran into got dumped by said woman for that reason, he'd never get to do it.
irc333 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Oh boy. Never thought I'd live to see the day that being virgin is a curse. Dr. Xavier, You want to know why? Because they feel guilty about not being pure themselves, and they feel bad being around someone that is sexually pure. Kind of like where booze-heads have a problem having a problem being around non-drinkers.
Professor X Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Hey..I sure was born with the ability to give great head But, I don't think it's hypocritical to dump someone for being a virgin. Some guys, it just doesn't float their boat. They want an active sex life, and if they know that they wont be getting any at all from a virgin, what's the point in dating her after you find out that she is still one? I think it's wrong to be with someone for a long time after finding out that they're a virgin, and then dumping them for that reason. Why wasn't it an issue before? What suddenly made it to where them being a virgin was enough of a deal breaker for you that you couldn't take it anymore? Well, that's pretty much that. The virginity alone isn't the deal breaker, it's the rumor about you not giving any to your ex' for over a year. Either that or it's some other rumor you still haven't heard that made him a bit wary.
Author Lilmisus Posted April 25, 2011 Author Posted April 25, 2011 Well I feel like an idiot now. I'm still pretty positive that my crush heard the rumor (everyone apparently loves talking about my business there, I asked them today to stop), but the one who started and said it wasn't my ex. It was a mutual friend there, who would always make the assumption that we weren't intimate at all, and she was the one who told my friend about the reason she thought we broke up. Apparently the person who told me about it, misunderstood my friend when she told her, but she set me straight tonight. My one friend who started the rumor, would always say when we were together how innocent she "knew" I was, and would tell me to stop lying if I said anything about my sex life. I, of course, didn't go out of my way to prove her wrong though. When I found this out, it was a major relief, mainly because it feels better to be able to trust that my ex isn't spreading any rumors around (I assume). Plus, it feels better to at least not worry about my crush thinking some false rumor about me, and apparently he's still considering asking me out. Though..I'm now considering going out with someone else instead Too many guys.
Recommended Posts