singlelife Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Does a guys personality make him hot to you. I mean if you had a Brad Pit type and a Jim Carrey type that you hung out with would you go for the fun, funny guy if he wasn't dead ugly?
Jazzari Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I value personality and intelligence MUCH higher than looks. I do think personality can make a guy look hot even if he isn't conventionally handsome.
orangelady Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 A girl would be lying if she said personality because I've seen guys who have nice personalities but are fat or short or pimpled face, and although the girls do love being their friends because they enjoy his personality, humor and company, they don't always see him as a 'lover'. 1
SteveC80 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Looks are just as important to women as they are Men possibly more in some cases The only people who claim they dont value looks much are people who arent attratcive enough to be picky about looks and have to go with whatever they can get Peopel with options who can afford to be picky about looks will be 1
orangelady Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Looks are just as important to women as they are Men The only people who claim they dont value looks much are people who arent attratcive enough to be picky about looks and have to go with whatever they can get Peopel with options who can afford to be picky about looks will be Exacto mundo.
Jazzari Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I'm considered very attractive and I'm damn picky. And sorry, personality is way more important than looks. Being attractive doesn't make me shallow. What being attractive DOES do, is make it possible to find a man that is both attractive AND has a great personality. But if I had to choose one, I would choose to personality over the looks.
zengirl Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 In some ways, I value looks, but that doesn't mean I always have the same aesthetic preferences as everyone on the planet. One gal might think a guy is super-hot, and I might not see it, and the guy she thinks is 'kinda cute' might be dead-sexy to me. All depends. Here's how I think it goes--- First thing's first: Pheromones will do what they do, and chemistry comes into play. Some people are more sensitive to pheromones than others (this is scientifically documented); I don't know for sure, but I think I'm very sensitive, as I get that pull right away or not at all. A person has never 'grown' on me in the realm of sexual attraction, even with the tricks and tips you can play on yourself. The basic theory behind pheromones is they tell you if you are biologically attracted to someone -- i.e. if Nature thinks you guys should make some babies. Then, whatever the aesthetic preferences of the day will have their say. Some people are more swayed by that than others. Then, a person's personal aesthetic preferences will have their say. Some people have more of a set 'type' than others. And that's just physical attraction! Then, you get into whether he makes you laugh, how the conversations go, if he's kind and happy, or whatever people are looking for. I'd never date a guy without a killer personality, but I'd never even give a guy a chance if I didn't have pheromones that were compatible with his and find him aesthetically pleasing. So, looks are sort of an entry fee, but for me, that doesn't mean the guy with the 'best' aesthetics (even to me) will be the right guy. It's not a game of comparisons. It's just about the guy being sexy enough that I want to see his kickass personality.
SteveC80 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I'm considered very attractive and I'm damn picky. And sorry, personality is way more important than looks. Being attractive doesn't make me shallow. What being attractive DOES do, is make it possible to find a man that is both attractive AND has a great personality. But if I had to choose one, I would choose to personality over the looks. Well then you're the exception not the norm
orangelady Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Well then you're the exception not the norm I find it funny that a lot of women and men on here claim that they are attractive and this and that, but that is really subjective. I'm sure they have a good self esteem, but in the eyes of others, you may not be attractive. I see it all the time. LS-ers here would justify their views by saying "I am attractive, hot etc...so that is why, etc etc" when really, we haven't even seen you. And even if your pic is in the avatar...it's a little small and blurry. Just saying. Like in the other thread, DreamGirl27 was having this heated up debate over this other girl, both were screaming "I AM ATTRACTIVE!!!" and discussing their height, weight, etc etc and man....I don't know. Do you always need to justify yourself? On another forum, this lady had her pic up and she said she was attractive but I didn't her attractive at all. Oh well.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Where exactly are the glands responsible for producing pheromones located on the human male? Never truely bought into the whole pheromones idea but have noticed an exceptional increase in female attraction when my armpits are just a pinch musty (only can smell it if your nose is in there). :/
counterman Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I have been told my many girls that personality is more important than looks, but there are girls that tell me that other girls that say that are just trying not to appear shallow. I won't go there. Looks, more specifically, attraction to the physical is all very subjective. I know some very attractive girls who date guys that aren't so attractive, some of which are my friends.
Johnny85 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Well then you're the exception not the norm I am a tall, 6"2, male in my mid twenties. Just to give you an idea, a lot of people say I look like Prince William. I dated a beautiful woman for four years. In the beginning of our relationship, I was very insecure about dating her. I was questioning her motive as to why she was dating me (I was in my very early twenties when we first started dating). Once she just looked at me and said, "I like you because you are not like every other guy." I am not gonna lie; she did like how I looked but she also liked my personality and all the qualities that made me unique. The point I am trying to prove, Steve, is that to most women, I am not Mr. Brad Pitt; yet to her I was. Of course physical attraction matters, but the definition of what's attractive varies.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 As much I appreciate and admire a guy's personality, I have to admit he won't get my attention unless I was physically attracted to gim in the first place. It's like admiring someone on the street- a cute guy can draw a 2nd,3rd and even a 4th look from me, but a so-so guy only attracts 2. And of course this sort of thing happens for guys as well, they're generally more visually attracted to a woman then to bother with personality first. As much as I hate to admit, it is a vice.
Johnny85 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Where exactly are the glands responsible for producing pheromones located on the human male? Never truely bought into the whole pheromones idea but have noticed an exceptional increase in female attraction when my armpits are just a pinch musty (only can smell it if your nose is in there). :/ LOL what?
zengirl Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Where exactly are the glands responsible for producing pheromones located on the human male? Never truely bought into the whole pheromones idea but have noticed an exceptional increase in female attraction when my armpits are just a pinch musty (only can smell it if your nose is in there). :/ Should be anywhere you sweat or secrete liquids, and I don't know that any study has shown being "sweatier" actually helps. There is a relatively new theory with a few studies behind it that suggests pheromones are linked to sexuality (some studies show clearly that homosexual men and women have different brain reactions -- on a cellular level -- to pheromones than heterosexual counterparts AND produce slightly different pheromones; kind of interesting). Pheromonal substances (manufactured or bottled) have never been proven to have any effect. And pheromones themselves may be only one portion of biological compatibility, of course; I just used them for shorthand, as I'm not writing a thesis here. There's still a lot we don't know. We do have enough studies that suggest biology is involved in attraction, likely for evolutionary purposes.
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 As much I appreciate and admire a guy's personality, I have to admit he won't get my attention unless I was physically attracted to gim in the first place. It's like admiring someone on the street- a cute guy can draw a 2nd,3rd and even a 4th look from me, but a so-so guy only attracts 2. Truth. Of course physical attraction is highly subjective.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Truth. Of course physical attraction is highly subjective. I'm not going to disagree. The types of guys I'm attracted to may not be someone else's cup of tea and vice versa. Let's put this another way- if you happen to meet two guys who have similar personalities but differing physical attributes, who would you choose? ( Note: one is physically more attractive ( to you) than the other)
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Let's put this another way- if you happen to meet two guys who have similar personalities but differing physical attributes, who would you choose? ( Note: one is physically more attractive ( to you) than the other) Of course the more physically attractive one wins! All else equal ofc. Such as intelligence and maturity and value system and how much they are into me and how fun they are. No-brainer.
Nexus One Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Let's put this another way- if you happen to meet two guys who have similar personalities but differing physical attributes, who would you choose? ( Note: one is physically more attractive ( to you) than the other) That would only establish that looks are a factor to her, not that they override a guy's personality.
lookingforyou Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Looks are subjective! I find all my exes good looking and I think they're the Brad Pitts of my life. Then my friends say these exes don't look as good as I think. There you go. My answer to the OP, personality trumps and that's because if I think they're good looking, they're good looking no matter whether they look bad to the rest of the world.
krz12 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 The 'range' on looks for men seems to be smaller than it is for women. There aren't too many hideous dudes around unless they're unwilling to do something about it.
Johnny85 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 A lot has to do with how you present yourself, as well. Someone who dresses well automatically is perceived as better looking than someone who doesn't. Similarly, someone who is perceived as confident, fun and unique will also come across as better looking than someone who is not.
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 A lot has to do with how you present yourself, as well. Someone who dresses well automatically is perceived as better looking than someone who doesn't. Similarly, someone who is perceived as confident, fun and unique will also come across as better looking than someone who is not. Especially for guys!
Johnny85 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Especially for guys! I think you have a point; I am very attracted to sincere confidence in a woman though. The reason why I include the word sincere is because there is a big difference between acting confident and being confident.
Lilmisus Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I find confidence extremely attractive; more so than anything else. I had a HUGE thing for a guy who was a bit bigger, not typically found attractive or anything like that by others, but since his personality and mine just went together perfectly, I was extremely attracted to him and wanted to be with him more than anyone else. His ability to make me laugh and get my sense of humor made it to where I felt we would be a great match. Right now, there's a guy who's great looking, who everyone claims is "extremely hot" and who wants to date me, but since his personality is wayyy off, I'm saying no to him and not giving him a second thought. If he can barely talk to me, let alone make me smile and laugh, why should I try going for him? Personality is way more key than looks for me. Looks change over time, and there are many guys who age gracefully and get better looking as they get older, and I keep that in mind when I see them. Some, lose hair, gain weight, and lose teeth though, and I also keep it in mind when I see attractive guys. Personality typically stays relatively the same, so if I'm going to be stuck with their personality and not their looks for the rest of our time together, it will be the number one thing I look at.
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