confused_blondie Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 I've been missing my ex so much past few days. I don't think I ever got real closure from him just a confused 'i love you so much but I'm not ready' excuse. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t270805/ Its been 2 months since break up and 4 weeks of NC. I really want to message him and tell him I miss talking to him. Tell him about my new adventure in august etc. I know I shouldn't but I've even started writing it...but I haven't sent it. Please can you remind me why I shouldn't send the message!!!!!!!
jeweleestar Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Write what you want to tell him in a journal, tell us, but don't open yourself up for more pain. I know that it is hard, I am day 6 into NC number 3. I did message him, didn't get the response that I wanted, beat myself up over the feelings that I didn't get and the feelings of frustration for allowing him to still have control over me. If he is not ready to love you, then he is not worthy of your time right now. Stay strong. We are here for you.
Aqua066 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Stay strong is right!!! I felt very similar to how your feeling all day today... been a real crappy rainy day. All I can tell you is think about how bad you'll feel if you break NC. You'll regret it! and then have to start all over again. Take this time to heal.
reallyconfused2542 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 dont msg him cause your setting the example of how to act! your doing great!
makelemonade1974 Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 Any form of unwanted contact is technically "harassment" - depending on what state you live in. Any emails, texts, etc. can be used against you. If your ex decides he wants out of the relationship, you have to let him go. I know it hurts. It gets better every day. Leave him alone. If he wants to come back to you, he will. Then you can decide if the relationship is worth salvaging. At this point, you have to respect his wishes by giving him the space he wants. If you pester him, it may make him angry and just push him further away. Wait for him to come to you. ((hugs)) I know you are hurting right now. I've been there. Be strong. Endure. Put one foot in front of the other.
Sugarkane Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 If you haven't already just completely delete his messages/ number so you can't message him. No number= can't send him anything
Fufu Posted April 24, 2011 Posted April 24, 2011 If you did really send him a message, you will even be more confused and depressed. Because once you sent a message, you will start to hope he sees your messages and replies. If he doesn't, you will start to wonder why he is so heartless, why he chooses to ignore you and stuff. Don't send, it will not do any good for you. He made his decision to live his life without you. You too, it's your own life, you can make the decision to live on your life happily without him as well.
Author confused_blondie Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 Thanks everyone. You'll be glad to hear I haven't messaged him. Been keeping myself busy geeting myself sorted for my big adventure. I just wish I could stop thinking about him and missing him. Its been nearly 2months. I thought it would have been easier by now. @ sugarkane. Don't worry I deleted everything to do with him. even blocked him of facebook. It has definitely helped ) I've got a date tonight which I hope will help and I'm concentrating on my new life in August. Just wish I was going now as I know that would definitely help me keep my mind off him. Everyone has been a great support on here. Thank you and keep up with the good advice. I know we can help each other through what we're all going through.
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