vballtay Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 After a recent break-up from a year long relationship, a guy friend and I hit it off as more than friends pretty quickly. When we hung out together he would hold and kiss me tenderly, we would laugh all night, and he would tell me that he really liked me and that he wanted to ask me out when things died down with my ex. I agreed that it was a good idea and that we should take it slow for now. However, the days go on and I hear from him less and less. Where as before he would text me about every day, now its like once or twice a week. He doesn't ignore me or anything if I initiate conversation, but I don't too often bc he's one that likes to pursue. Yes, I still miss my ex and I'm not entirely over him yet (and the guy friend in question knows this), but I do have feelings for this guy that's NOT just "rebound emotions" bc I've had a thing for him over the course of our friendship (when I wasn't in a relationship ofcourse). He did say he was going to wait and we both agreed to take it slow, but is this considered "slow" or is he possibly losing interest ? Any opinions ? Thanks guys.
Ilikefun Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 you need to be the aggressor here imo. he clearly put the ball in your court when he said he'd like to be more than friends with you when things died down with your ex. if you want him, you need to go after him.
chuckles11 Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 I think he's losing interest. Honestly, it would be silly for this guy to sit around, waiting for you to get over your ex.
Professor X Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 you need to be the aggressor here imo. he clearly put the ball in your court when he said he'd like to be more than friends with you when things died down with your ex. if you want him, you need to go after him. He's right. You might know your feeling are not just 'rebound' but the guy in question does not. I highly suggest that if you want this guy, than you make it happen. I'm sure that a quick browse in this forum will show you how many people here did not overcome their ex' and so your friends concern is legit. If I were him, I'd probably do the same. I'd hate to spend all this energy to go after you only to end up seeing you back with your ex'. Show him that you want him and show him that your ex' is in your past (as should be!). Nonetheless, you should consider again that your feeling might really be rebound ones, as it's not so easy to jump from one RS to another.
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