ilovedhim Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 I'm 2 weeks NC now and still raw. My ex birthday is this weekend and was wondering if I should text him a quick note. Is that a bad idea?
Hopeless Girl Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 idk about you.. ive been also 2 weeks NC and i am with that same thought cause his bday is next week. ... should we say Happy Bday? I know my ex told me "I hope u congratulate me in my bday" and i was "ok sure" but will I? ..... what do u think we should do?
Johnny85 Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 What are you hoping to get out of wishing your ex a happy birthday?
sandman223 Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 I wouldn't. Its way to soon to contact even if it is his birthday.
PinkChic Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 I am also in about two weeks NC and my ex's birthday is on Sunday... I have thought about it and I will NOT be wishing him a happy birthday... I think actions speak louder than words and he will notice.... Plus, I think he would respond "thanks" and knowing myself I would read into it way too far and feel like I'm back at square 1... I can't afford to get set back!
sandman223 Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 Right on PinkChic! What is a happy birthday going to accomplish? Its certainly not going to get you two back together and at worst it could cause a huge setback as you will sit by your phone hoping and waiting for a text back, and even if you get one you will overanalyze whatever is texted back to you.
D-Lish Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 I am also in about two weeks NC and my ex's birthday is on Sunday... I have thought about it and I will NOT be wishing him a happy birthday... I think actions speak louder than words and he will notice.... Plus, I think he would respond "thanks" and knowing myself I would read into it way too far and feel like I'm back at square 1... I can't afford to get set back! This. Don't do it, nothing good will come out of it and it really will set you back.
Fufu Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 Logically speaking, once you sent a note to him, you are breaking NC. Don't do it, you won't get anything good out of it by sending him a note. 2 weeks is a great achievement, you are doing good, keep it up
Author ilovedhim Posted April 23, 2011 Author Posted April 23, 2011 alright. i won't text him not sure what i expected. maybe just not to be mean. but i have to remember the cruel and harsh things he did to me. thanks everyone.
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