Never gunna happen again

[Meshel]

Ok so I'm 21 and my bf of 2 years broke up with me in nov of last year. It was my first relationship first everything. I was heartbroken but kindof saw it coming. I found out later that he started dating his ex 2 weeks after we broke up.

 

Everything has been so screwed up since. Little focus in school, crying fits, but worst of all I don't feel good enough to be with anyone at all. I've lost a lot of weight through it all and still look in the mirror and find myself disgusting. I know his new gf is really skinny blonde avg height.

 

I hate to stereotype but because of him I feel like all that guys want is someone who is skinny and small and that's not me my bone structure is just larger than avg and it's never gunna happen.

 

I'm addicted to the gym hanging with friends doing new activities but at the end of the day I feel like none of it even really matters.

 

I don't know how to get over this and don't know if anyone else understands.

[sonic3]

The fact that he was attracted to you in the first place and went out with you for 2 years shows that you are desirable, and where to him as well.

 

Perhaps you are dwelling too much on some insecurities you have about your weight, the reason for the breakup probably had absolutely nothing to do with this.

 

If he went back with his ex, perhaps he had unresolved feelings for her, but I really doubt it's a case of he went back to her because she was skinnier.

 

It's great that you have lost weight and have been going to the gym a lot, those are really positive things and you should look at them as achievements for YOURSELF, your being active - your not moping about, your increasing your physical fitness and making yourself look better.

 

Those are all really great things, and for most people it's difficult to find the motivation to do those things after a breakup, so you should be proud of yourself

 

Focus on yourself, those things might not matter to him, but they should matter to you.

[Meshel]

Thanks that's so true. Its hard getting past insecurities and I guess part of a breakup is feeling like you won't be good enough for anyone just gotta remember that he chose me once and someone else might too. God this is hard.