TomerT Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Hi all, Today at 8am I really accidentally glanced on my phone and in this really moment I saw my phone receiving a call from my ex cheating girlfriend. Long story short - she cheated on me (how did I know you may wonder - simply she came pregnant from vacation with her x-bf)...Since then I didn't see her even once, we only talked once (few days after I got know) and then total NC. She tried to call two times - but I ignored. Today she called, luckily for me (or not) she is my block list and was automatically disconnected. I even not sure if there is some question in my post...But what the hell she wanted ? I loved her like crazy - she was everything for me. I was very angry at her, at my self...but now I really over her and live peacefully and happily, dating others....Of course I still remember her and miss..but probably not her, but the person I thought she was.... What the hell she wanted ? I even not sure if she kept her baby (she mentioned abortion to me when we talked then)...There is no way we are coming back...But frankly, I am a little bit "happy" and in the same time pissed by her call. Just needed to "vent". Thanks for reading and any comments will be appreciated.
iceweasel6 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 TomerT, You seem to be in a good place. It's definitely ok to vent. She's probably dealing with a lot right now, and I can't imagine what it took from her to call you - but she climbed a huge mountain of courage to do it - either that or she's desperate as hell. One will never know unless you talk to her, and I don't think you want to do that. Good on you for not picking up and blocking her. She will have a lot to think about.
silvermane187 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Knocked up on vacation with her ex. Sounds like a real winner. Seriously you did the right thing by ignoring it. Nothing she could say would do you any good.
Author TomerT Posted April 26, 2011 Author Posted April 26, 2011 Thanks iceweasel6.... One will never know unless you talk to her, and I don't think you want to do that. The problem is that even if I would talk to her, I will find it very difficult to believe to any of her words...The only way I may consider talk to her, is if she comes, and talks to me while looking into my eyes...This is the only "favor" I can do for her...but I suppose this "mountain" is really unreachable for her.
MidnightinMadrid Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Could she actually leave messages on your phone even if she was blocked? It would be good to know what she wanted to say and you can hear that in her message. However you are doing the right thing,she betrayed your trust,what on earth does she has to say,sorry? Too late don't ya think?
Author TomerT Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 Exactly, I really don't understand what she expect to hear from me..."Honey, I was waiting for you all this time, please come back..."...Is this what she expect to hear ? She can not leave the message, but she could send SMS, write an email or find me in other ways....She was really good in it when we together....
Layzie89 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Don't stress over why she called you all of a sudden. Take comfort knowing that you're in a far better place than she is right now. You did nothing wrong and she's probably just going through alot right now with her pregnancy. Regret? Possibly. But thats her issue now not yours. Keep on keeping on and don't look back man. If it was something of worth what she had to say she would find a way to contact you regardless. Stay strong brother.
Author TomerT Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Thank you all ! You all are very helpful...
Author TomerT Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 She just called again...twice... I didn't pick up...I have nothing to say to her and have no interest to hear what is going on in her life...If her life is good - I am happy for her and always wished her good, if her life is bad - there is nothing I can do about it right now. If she has something really important to say me - she easily can find a way to make sure I receive her message. Is my reasoning "reasonable" ? Still, to be honest, "I am dying" to know what was a real cause for her finally contact me. It could be much easier to send me a sms or an email, still she decided to call... I wonder why ? P.S. I have noticed, the more she is trying to reach me - the more distant and "stranger" she become to me. Until recently I really missed her a lot, but she actually helping me with my recovery.
marqueemoon4 Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 man, she did you so wrong. i feel for you.. but you're doing the right thing. F her.
selena_cat Posted June 9, 2011 Posted June 9, 2011 What does it matter the reason she is calling? She literally made her bed,better yet she shared her bed with someone else and actually lied to you,what does she want now,for you to be the baby daddy? All this curiousity will probably make you pick up,which I really hope you dont. Remember curiosity does kill the cat,meow.
Author TomerT Posted June 9, 2011 Author Posted June 9, 2011 curiosity does kill the cat,meow. Like ! This have returned me on the ground again ! Thanks
guccimane99 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Did ur ex is messed up and she definatly messed up her life. This is when you pick up the phone and say "hello, who is this?" and when she says ___ u say "sorry i think u have the wrong number and hang up." U'll be laughing and shell by like what the hell then if she calls dont pick up. Funniest thing u could ever do to an ex. Then they know u forget about them HAHAHA . Better not when shes calling u, u know ur on her mind. So do what we do best and just move on to something better like chris brown says. Yes, he is messed up for hitting a chick but that song deuces is what u need. Just remember as much as u lover her doesnt give her the right to treat u like ****.
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