Jadestone Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 We have all heard it- birds of a feather flock together. Do you believe this to be true? If someone's friends are insecure, immature, backstabbing, liars- is it safe to think he/she too? I have very confident friends who are mature. I'm not all of the time- but they give me a standard to live up to- and I learn from them everyday. I'm an honest person- and don't hang with liars. Anybody who was in my life and was a wolf in sheeps clothing- eventually fades out. Have you ever met someone you were interested in, only to find out that you couldn't stand their social group? Was their social group a reflection of who they are as people?
laRubiaBonita Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Have you ever met someone you were interested in, only to find out that you couldn't stand their social group? Was their social group a reflection of who they are as people? a guy i dated, who was once a stoner, but reformed. still hung out with all his stoner/ druggie friends. the majority of them still lived at home, had been arrested for drug related things multiple times, and were your basic stereotypical wastoids. i hated hanging out with them because i was super sure something bad would happen. the guy i dated was not like them at all (at least he wasn;t then, maybe he was back in the day); he had his crap together (for the most part). i see what you are sayong though, OP. i think the people that tend to act like their surroundings are the people that are not confident enough to be themselves because they may lose the approval they are getting by being a carbon copy. also i think when you are younger you tend to try and do things similarly to attain friends and that same approval and acceptance.
threebyfate Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Generally speaking, yes, I believe it to be true. But as a universal rule, no, I disagree. You'll find there are individuals who don't have a need to extrovert their values, ones who don't hold their friends to the same level of expectations as they hold themselves. Unfortunately, no matter how contained, most people are strongly impacted by externalities. As an example, drug and alcohol abuse. If everyone around you is doing it, it's likely the individual will do it to fit into the crowd and lifestyle.
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