Green_eyes Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I am searching for some more words of wisdom, because I am pretty confused. I am 38, have a son who lives for half of the week with me, and I have been divorced for almost a year now. My ex-wife moved out about two and a half years ago, having told me she didn't love me anymore. She has bounced back, didn't seem to have any trouble finding somebody new and lives with a new bloke - who actually seems to be a great guy. I took me a long time to get to where I am now, I can honestly say it was the blackest period of my life. I dated a few girls, but for various reasons things went wrong - primarily I think because it was too soon. I have come to realise that I am over my ex-wife, but the feeling of loneliness won't go away. I met a really super person a few months ago and developed a massive crush on her. The trouble is that she doesn't feel the same way "You're a really nice guy, but..." I can't really get her out of my head, but I reluctantly realised that I had to move on, I decided to try Internet dating. That hasn't worked either. There was an initial flurry of interest, but nothing that has led to so much as a single date. "I really liked your profile - you look like a really nice guy" "I liked your picture, I thought you looked really nice." Then, the other day I was chatting to an acquaintance and got told: "I can't believe you haven't met someone yet - you are so nice." The wretched "N" word again - I hate that adjective. I realise that I probably won't find my soul mate immediately, but there hasn't even been a fledgling relationship. I am starting to think that I may actually have to face the prospect of being single for the rest of my life. Where on earth am I going wrong?
soulm8 Posted April 25, 2011 Posted April 25, 2011 I have no idea... because I have the same problem/label. I suppose we should actually be grateful that most recognize this quality in us, and avoid the temptation to exploit it. It's really just a "nice" way of saying that they WISH they could overlook whatever it is about us or our circumstance that they find to be a turnoff. (I've even used it to gently turn someone down) We just haven't found the right match yet.
ALonerAgain Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Yeah, I hate that word: "nice". It's so...vanilla! Have you tried anything other than Dating sites? What about hobbies? Do you have any? Have you tried meeting women through them? What about through Meet-Up?
DreamerGirl27 Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Women think they can "friend zone" men. It's really bad when a guy does it.
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