pink.fairy Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I just realised it's been 3 weeks since my boyfriend dumped me unexpectedly. I have decided not to go NC with him. I know most people here rave about how it's absolutely necessary in moving on; but I really don't think it's for me. I just feel that if I cut contact entirely, it would make me feel 100 times worse. Has anyone else ever done that... not cut contact with their ex, and still had things turn out fine? Or is anyone currently doing it now as well?
Hopeless Girl Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 It depends on the situation... u have to really analyze it to see what u can do.. for me it was .. he dumped me out of the blue... and i had to crawl my way back in by texting him little stuff and he answered back.. just texting like if we were friends... it actually worked cause 2 weeks laters he begged me to get back with him ... and i guess it didnt work cause exactly a week later he asked for a break ... but hes going to therapy and stuff cause he has issues... the reasont he dumped me in the 1st place was that he thought i didnt care enough about him and I showed him that I guess.. and I realized it .... but he seems to be going through **** ... anyways ... it works depending on the r/s ...
Author pink.fairy Posted April 22, 2011 Author Posted April 22, 2011 it works depending on the r/s ... This is my opinion too. I've just noticed on these boards, that a lot of people seem to think it's the only way to go. For me, I'd be absolutely devastated and feel so much worse if we completely cut contact. It wouldn't be good for me at all!
Fufu Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 (edited) Going NC or not is up to individual. My personal take is I will still advice people to seek NC, reasons as follow. If the following works fine and okay for you. It's entirely up to your decision - Hearing from your ex bf/gf of their happy lives (When you are not with them anymore) - Hearing from your ex bg/gf of their new dates - Hearing from your ex bf/gf how right they are from breaking up with you - Hearing from your ex bf/gf they like someone else - Hearing from your ex bf/gf they are super confused (But they don't show any initiative contact and action that they want to be with you again) - Hearing from your ex bf/gf they found their new partners and hope you can wish them all the best. or - Contact your ex bf/gf consistently but they ignore you all the way I personally believe in actively choosing one another. If they really want to be with you, they will show true sincere contact and action to you and not playing any love games with you. Edited April 22, 2011 by Fufu
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