Hopeless Girl Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 So like I said i saw my ex tonight at my best friends bday and it was different. He actually went there alone .. idk why! he didnt even go with his best friend or anything.. and at one time he started engaging conversation with me and well i converse with him until a friend of mine called me to tell me something and our conversation only lasted 10seconds ... after that he like randomly got up and said goodbye to everybody and minutes after that I left cause my friend was tired... idk why he went but he could've easily not gone and even worse go ALONE! .. i know i shouldnt be reading into this but people tell me he totally wanted to see me ... but maybe not... what do u think? what r ur thoughts? negatives, positives whichever.. why would he go there alone?
pink.fairy Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I don't really know your story, so sorry if I ask questions that are obvious. How close is your ex to your friend? If they got pretty friendly, then I wouldn't think anything of it. However, if they weren't, then it does seem to indicate that he might have wanted to see you. I mean, this is your best friends party, so obviously he knew you were going to be there. You mentioned that he tried engaging in conversation with you; so I guess that follows along with the theory of him being there to see you, depending on how the conversation came about/went. I don't know; obviously none of us could know either way, but I'd say there's a fair chance he did want to see you there, depending on a few little things (like I mentioned).
Author Hopeless Girl Posted April 22, 2011 Author Posted April 22, 2011 I know this girl since elementary.. in know way they like each other at all trust me.. were just a group of friends ... she has a boyfriend.. trust me nothing to do with her ... but just the whole going alone thing .. it was weird ... it actually melted my heart to see him ...
pink.fairy Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I didn't mean to imply that they're into each other, if that's what you thought I meant. I just didn't realise the dynamic of your friendships. So you were all in a group together? I was just asking about your best friend's and ex's friendship together, because I wasn't sure if they were old friends or not, or if they were only friendly because of your relationship with him. Hopefully you get what I mean. My point was, if your ex is friends with your best friend, I wouldn't assume him being there had anything to do with seeing you, even if he did turn up alone. I also don't get why him turning up alone is so strange; did he not know anyone else there? I don't always turn up to parties with someone else, but it doesn't really mean anything.
Fufu Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 No body knows for sure if he's there to see you. Maybe... maybe not. Why not ask him the ultimatum question? This will help you not to over analyze and drive yourself more confused by his actions. Ultimatum questions like are you here to see me or do you want to rebuild this relationship again?
Author Hopeless Girl Posted April 22, 2011 Author Posted April 22, 2011 They arent that close but she invited him and he crashed really latee
Author Hopeless Girl Posted April 22, 2011 Author Posted April 22, 2011 No body knows for sure if he's there to see you. Maybe... maybe not. Why not ask him the ultimatum question? This will help you not to over analyze and drive yourself more confused by his actions. Ultimatum questions like are you here to see me or do you want to rebuild this relationship again? I cant ask him that. Itd be weird... I just dont know how u guys can be a long time without speaking NC full.. its driving me crazy ... i guess Ill neever know if he wanted to see me ...
Fufu Posted April 23, 2011 Posted April 23, 2011 Don't drive yourself over by his actions and thoughts. He is he, you are you. Focus on yourself, move on. NC is not that hard after all, it only seems strange in the beginning and in time to come NC will be your buddy. I find it quite hard to grasp on NC in the beginning, but now, even when my ex comes into my mind, I no longer have the temptation and urge to contact him anymore. Remember, our exes chose to leave us, therefore we don't have to initiate anything in return.
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