CaliGirl Posted April 7, 2004 Posted April 7, 2004 Married at 16 (1995) Divorded at 21- My ex-husband had this great idea to have a three-some with his cousin- That went all bad for our marriage and led to my ex and I divorcing- I have been messin with the cousin since then- that was 4 1/2 yrs ago. I love him! I'll call him G! Him & I both dated other people during this time- nothing too serious until last June I moved in with my boyfriend- Then all the sudden one month later he has this 15 year old girl move in with him- Call it what you want. My boyfriend and I broke up in January- I wasn't giving my all cause I was cheating on him with G. I don't know how to stop loving him- He says that he only keeps the girl for all the time pu**y- but I see him with her and he acts like he cares a lot- She trys to be cool with me- but that's hard cause how can I give her advise on a man that I love too! I'm not ready to settle down right now- This is the 1st time I've really been single since I was 15 so I'm just livin it up- and right now it's ok G & me just mess around - but then I think maybe it's not anymore- I can't find a way to let go- We're so familiar with eachother but his little girlfriend?? We kick it together almost everyday- He also has a so-called girlfriend that moved to Florida and she thinks he's alone- wanting her- Both of these girls call me- But they have no idea what's really going on. I don't think I even know??
befuddled11 Posted April 7, 2004 Posted April 7, 2004 So it's "G" that you live with? Who has the 15 yr old who lives there too? And how old is "G"? I'm guessing by your post that you're over 21..I'm somehow assuming G is, too....so he's screwing a minor? That's a great way to go to prison.....seeing how that's considered STATUATORY RAPE. I don't know what to advise about your sordid situation. It all sounds pretty screwed up.
jenny Posted April 7, 2004 Posted April 7, 2004 o, wow. this is quite a mess. my first reaction is that you may love him, but he does not love you. if i understand the pronouns correctly, one of these men has 3 girls on the line. i think it is G? if it is G, do what you are going to do, but know this is casual. do not invest and get prepared to get hurt. also, the fact that the other women do not know about one another indicates this is not an ethical man. i feel like i say this too often, but why are your standards so low? don't you feel like you deserve a better man than a guy who will string along and lie to three women? why would you accept this arrangement? this situation puts you in a very unethical position as well, because you are friends with the other women to some extent. are you willing to accept that low of a standard of behaviour from yourself?
Author CaliGirl Posted April 7, 2004 Author Posted April 7, 2004 G has 2 other girlfriends and me - Yes it's a soap opera drama situation but I can't seem to control my feeling for him- That's why i'm here
jenny Posted April 8, 2004 Posted April 8, 2004 well, if you are looking for point blank direction: pull yourself together. right now you are lying and sleeping with someone that does not care about you. stop doing that. you may want him, but you are a rational person. you can control your impulses. decide right now that you no longer want to live a jerry springer life, break up with this loser, and eliminate contact with him. spend some time looking at yourself, and the kinds of patterns that lead you into this situation. form relationships that will make your life better, not much worse.
Darkangelism Posted April 8, 2004 Posted April 8, 2004 I think we have a troll. But if it is for real, you need to change your lifestyle a bit.
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