tigressA Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Am I the only lady here who would be pissed if her SO went to one? No, my BF has not gone to one, but if he ever did while we were together and I found out about it, yes, I would be pissed. When you go to a strip club, you're paying money to see/experience significantly less than when you're with your SO, that is if you have a healthy sex life. The only draw to it that I can see is the same that you get with the infinite amount of free porn on the 'net or even just walking down the street--variety. Keep in mind that I don't have a problem with porn as long as it's not a regular thing (I watch it infrequently) or with a guy looking at other girls as long as they're discreet about it. But coughing up dough just to have some random hot chick shake her ass in his face when I could do that and even more without him even having to ask, much less stick dollar bills in the crotch of my sequined g-string? I would have a HUGE problem with that. I remember I had a conversation with my younger brother about an episode that happened with his now ex-GF. He had gone to a strip club and then lied about it to her, though he confessed later, in stages. She of course was upset about the lie, but also upset that he even went in the first place. He couldn't understand why until I explained it to him.
Woggle Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 You have every right to feel this way as long as you follow the same standard yourself and are faithful to him.
welikeincrowds Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 you're paying money to see/experience significantly less than when you're with your SO Wait, so you can spin slowly down a pole, upside-down, using nothing but your arms, because your legs are busy being split open like the letter Y? That's pretty impressive, TigressA!
Jynxx Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I don't think you have the right to be upset with it unless you let him know beforehand how you felt about it and told him explicitly you would prefer him not to go. I'm currently not in a relationship and end up there once every couple of weeks. Where I live, most days the bars close at 5 and the only thing open then are a handful of stripclubs 50 meters further. When you're wasted, out with your buddies and cut off from alcohol except at a stripclub, it's simple logic to go have a couple more and watch some halfnaked chicks while you're at it. Sometimes one of the guys with a girlfriend prefers to go home (he will usually get needled quite a bit for that), but most of the times they join in. It's camaraderie. Strippers don't hook up with customers, so there's no chance he'll really cheat on you (except maybe in some really sleazy low class joints). I personally think a girl going out to grind on some random stranger in a club is way worse than a guy grabbing a beer and watching some half naked ladies dance around a pole.
Illiandra Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 No thats just silly. If you cant trust your so in a strip club, then i guess you cant trust him in a bar or a club either. All of my x bfs have gone to strip clubs in vegas, montreal, etc for bachelorette parties. Ive been grateful that they all thought it was a waste of $ but its the thing to do before a guy gets married (cliche i know) Strippers dont hook up with the men unless the men pay them 1000$ or more to sleep with them. So if your gonna get jealous that your s/o watches a girl slide up and down a pole, you should get jealous when he watches porn on his lap top too..
mogul Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I don't think you have the right to be upset with it unless you let him know beforehand how you felt about it and told him explicitly you would prefer him not to go. It's camaraderie. Strippers don't hook up with customers, so there's no chance he'll really cheat on you (except maybe in some really sleazy low class joints). I personally think a girl going out to grind on some random stranger in a club is way worse than a guy grabbing a beer and watching some half naked ladies dance around a pole. I agree, it is basically just another venue for the guys to hang out. I personally am not a fan of strip clubs but you shouldn't be too upset. It is an ego thing with the guys, just to throw money around. It also seems like a good idea when you're drunk. However, you have nothing to worry about. It is extremely rare that anything will progress past a show.
iris219 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I wouldn't care if he went to a strip club at all. I would care if he spent a lot of money at the club, and I would care if he was a strip club enthusiast (you know the kind of guy I'm talking about here).
Cee Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I hate strip clubs because I know people who got addicted to that stuff and it wrecked their lives. It's like how I feel about casinos. Sure it's fun for some, but it causes total destruction and death for a lot of others. So I steer clear of all of that stuff. Never had a boyfriend into strip clubs. And I wouldn't be cool with that. I wouldn't dislike it because of infidelity, but because it feeds into an industry that treats women (and men) like commodities.
Author tigressA Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 It's not even about trusting a guy not to cheat on you, and it's not about anything with my current relationship. It's just...why, if you're regularly getting it good in the bedroom, and with the infinite amount of free s*it you could see on the internet anyway, would you spend money just to have some stranger give you a lapdance? Or just to see a random next-to-naked girl twirl around a pole? Why would you pay for that little bit when you've got more than that from someone you love, who loves you--and at no cost? It just boggles my mind. I had asked my brother those questions during the conversation we had and he couldn't really give me an answer. I guess I had given him something to think about.
fishtaco Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 They're supporting young ladies' college tuition payments. It's for a good cause.
SmileFace Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I wouldn't care. I would even tag along but I just don't understand why people waste money on things as such. I mean seriously, how hard is it to go get your rocks off for free. Eww, wait ,do guys actually get their rocks off at strip clubs? Hope they are stocked with tissue. However if he is out with his boys, it is just like going to a bar for them. It isn't something that should happen weekly. My friend(female) goes to strip shows all the time. I have tagged along, not really my thing, but it is something we did as "girl time". If it is merely recreation, it is fine to me. If it is something he/she needs , not so fine.
FlyAway&ComeBack Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Ha. We have the same quote OP. Any who. Yes! I would be pissed. i mean.. I go to strip clubs.. but not like i'm going to see guys up there taking off there clothes. bring on the ladies! I also get pissed if my guy watches porn behind my back. That hurts, makes you feel like they don't want you anymore. Especially if the porn has nothing to do with your features. For example; Asian porn.. Do I look Asian. Hell no. Just hurts.
welikeincrowds Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 It's not even about trusting a guy not to cheat on you, and it's not about anything with my current relationship. It's just...why, if you're regularly getting it good in the bedroom, and with the infinite amount of free s*it you could see on the internet anyway, would you spend money just to have some stranger give you a lapdance? Or just to see a random next-to-naked girl twirl around a pole? Why would you pay for that little bit when you've got more than that from someone you love, who loves you--and at no cost? I can see how you might not understand how someone would find it entertaining or a worthy interest. But I'm still having trouble seeing how it has anything to do with you.
Kamille Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I wouldn't be upset if bf went to a strip club, but I would be surprised. Strip clubs would go against many of his basic moral principles. My friend's bf is a strip club aficionado. Strip clubs , for him, are about male bonding, asserting their masculinity by throwing money around at sexually objectified women. Come to think of it, if bf needed that kind of affirmation on a regular basis, yes, I would have an issue with it.
threebyfate Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Not a supporter of anything associated to the skin industry. It's all one big bag of crass and comedy. Having said that, if H. wanted to view porn or go to a strip bar with the boys here and there, it wouldn't bother me. If he went alone or it was a regular occurrence, that would be a problem. Fortunately, he's not interested in any of it.
Woggle Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Men who frequent strip clubs are the ultimate suckers. They throw away tons of money on women who probably hate their guts. At least with porn once you buy it it is yours and you can view it as much you want but with strippers you have to constantly keep throwing money away. The dumbest thing is making it rain. What a wast of money that is.
Jynxx Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 That's not logic, that's refusing to control yourself. I don't necessarily disagree with that. Most people live a good life, work hard, pay taxes and refuse to control themselves ones every couple of weeks on a weekendnight by getting drunk and making a fool of themselves in a club. That's the way life goes, some people need to blow off steam once in a while, others don't. No hard feelings or problem with either. Now that's one of the funnies lies I've ever heard. Strippers don't hook up with customers? Not sure how many stripclubs you've been to, but I've been to a couple. Most of them have cameras, even in the backrooms and private areas. They're not whorehouses. I know for a fact that in the biggest club in Vegas (the Spearmint Rhino) strippers get fired if they kiss a customer on the mouth, let alone they would have sex with one. Please tell me how you got your information, it's from tv isn't it? (and while you're at it, explain me what is so funny about it) there's many other ways he can go get laid. My point exactly. Wait, wut? Is this an argument for or against going to stripclubs?
J200 Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I have always told one of my exes not to go and he did anyways. I have a major problem with it. He told me one of the strippers grabbed his dick through his pants and bit it. These kind of things go on a lot at clubs; strippers will nudge the guy's dick with their knees and asses and blow on it through his pants (some guys will wear slacks and jogging pants to feel more). My ex told me he enjoyed it and wanted to find strip clubs where the girls were even freakier and did more than just bite it. I live in Orange County in CA, and there was a club called Ecstacy where the girls give you bed dances. You lie in a bed and the girl grinds you when you lay down so it's almost simulated sex. It's legal and they always advertise in the paper. During private bachelor parties some strippers will play "games" like put a lollipop up her snatch with some of it hanging out while the guy bites the end that is hanging with his mouth etc Lots of bachelor parties consist of girl on girl sex shows; licking, toys etc. My girlfriend went to a private bachelor party where it was MIXED; the bride to be was actually THERE And when the future groom got a dance the stripper put her bare snatch in his face (when he was laying down) and the bride started crying. They thought it wasn't going to be a big deal but during the moment I guess she got sad and started crying and this is at a MIXED party with the bride and her friends there too. Imagine what happens at an all guys bachelor party. I have hard that many times when guys go to Vegas for a bachelor party they will just get hookers and all the guys will take turns; a GANGBANG. Strip clubs are not just about innocently watching a girl on stage. Some guys wear condoms and ejaculate during lap dances. To me all of the above is cheating.
Citizen Erased Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I wouldn't be mad as such, but I would think less of him. There are so many ways to spend your time, going to strip clubs is just kinda sad. For the girls and the guys perving on them.
yah Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I don't care if SO went, as long as he tells me about it beforehand. In fact, I want to go with him at least once but he's not into it. I tell him I'd buy him a dance! To strip club customers, the appeal is beer, maybe sports game on a huge tv and porn/strip in 3D. The stripping is just entertainment, a show, and nothing more.
J200 Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 I don't care if SO went, as long as he tells me about it beforehand. In fact, I want to go with him at least once but he's not into it. I tell him I'd buy him a dance! To strip club customers, the appeal is beer, maybe sports game on a huge tv and porn/strip in 3D. The stripping is just entertainment, a show, and nothing more. So you don't care if a stripper bites your man's dick through his pants or grabs it rubs it during a dance? To the point where he almost cums? Because this is what happens. As a woman, I think most women are really naive if they think a strip club is just a show where you watch girls dance naked on stage. That is nothing and I have no probs with that. SOME strippers will let the guys lick their nipples during a dance, a lot of strippers will poke the guy's dick during a dance and grind it to the point where he almost cums. Don't believe me? Google strip club reviews at message boards like Usasexguide where guys describe in detail how they got a handjob for $30 more etc. This stuff happens. Sure it's illegal and sure clubs have camera but women who don't think this kind of stuff goes on are naive.
Woggle Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Women at strip clubs are just as bad. They tear the men's clothes off like rabid animals.
SmileFace Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Women at strip clubs are just as bad. They tear the men's clothes off like rabid animals. Worse actually
J200 Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Worse actually The women are more like laughing AT the male strippers and making fun of them and are grossed while the GUYS at strip clubs have their eyes closed and are like really into it; like they are having sex. Women don't get like that; they are just laughing at the male strippers. They are not intent on "getting off" and having an orgasm while guys are strip clubs are.
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