Enchanted Girl Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t274465/ That's where I was two days ago. Yesterday, he asked me out and I told him this exactly: "I'm sorry, but I can't be with you. I have a boyfriend already. I'm very faithful to him and there's nothing between us." It was the beginning of class when I said this to him. We have speech class together and when he stood up to give his speech, he sounded extremely pissed off. We have a questions and comments session afterwards and everyone said,"Wow, you sounded really pissed. Leave your personal problems behind when you go up to give your speech." Then he left class early. I thought that was the end of it, but he's called me a whole bunch of times and texted me now. He keeps insisting that I tell my boyfriend about "us" and how I emotionally cheated with him and how I'm a horrible person. I just want to go to class normally and it not be a big drama fest, but he won't stop and he keeps threatening to tell my boyfriend about it and its not fair because I didn't do anything except reject him. And I said no BECAUSE I love my boyfriend and want to be faithful to him, so its not fair that he's trying to act like I cheated when we've never even touched and like he's going to tattle on me for it. I told my boyfriend about it, but the whole thing just is freaking me out. =( I'm scared I'll be blamed for it. I'm not calling him a creep or anything. I just don't like being in trouble for doing the right thing and having my relationship possible suffer for doing the right thing.
TaraMaiden Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 You need to tell someone in authority at school that he's pestering you. Don't be nice about it or worry about hurting his feelings - he's obviously not worried about yours. you need to nip this in the bud and deal with it. It's not right, and he needs someone to pull him up on it. What a childish jerk.....
North by Southeast Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Sounds like this guy has a ton of emotional problems that have nothing to do with you. What he's doing is extremely troubling and not normal at all. My advice? Go to the school's administration if he keeps this up. This sounds like harassment to me. You have legitimate concerns about being blamed for this/drama, considering how small your class is.
tigressA Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Go to someone in a position of authority to do something about this, PRONTO. This has turned really ugly and will get worse if it's not nipped in the bud. This guy seems certifiable. Sorry this is happening to you.
iJester Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 You should tell your boyfriend about the situation too, if you haven't already, in case this guy tries to sabotage your relationship. And for god's sake stop talking to him.
one goal Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 And people say I harass my teacher. BS. This guy is harassing. How did he get your cell number?
dispatch3d Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I'd just tell the bf how crazy the guy is and that you are trying to just let the drama die by not talking to him. I'd stop talking to him, avoid being around him, etc.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 And people say I harass my teacher. BS. This guy is harassing. How did he get your cell number? Yeah, you're one to talk. The only reason you haven't bombarded her phone with calls is that your teacher had sense not to give you her number.
one goal Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Yeah, you're one to talk. The only reason you haven't bombarded her phone with calls is that your teacher had sense not to give you her number. I wouldn't bombard her. I know her personal, non work email addy but I don't email her there. I know better.
OldSkool Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 I thought that was the end of it, but he's called me a whole bunch of times and texted me now. He keeps insisting that I tell my boyfriend about "us" and how I emotionally cheated with him and how I'm a horrible person. This guy is a narcissistic, selfish, self centered train wreck. Based upon the above (guilt tripping, making up events and situations that did not occur, name calling) this guy is a problem waiting to happen. You need to stop being nice, and stop worrying about his feelings. He obviously has no concern for your feelings. You need to send this guy a written message not to communicate with you in any capacity ever again. Specifically tell him to stop calling and texting you. In the state of California, it is a serious misdemeanor and a crime of moral turpitude to continue to contact someone via telecommunications after you have been explicitly told to stop. Save your phone records and let him know that if he does not stop, you will be forced to file a criminal complaint and a restraining order. You also need to let the administration of the school know about his behavior. IMO this guy sounds like a predator, who has chosen a religious setting to stalk his prey.
Author Enchanted Girl Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 And people say I harass my teacher. BS. This guy is harassing. How did he get your cell number? I gave it to him. When I first started going to this class five weeks ago, he introduced himself and said he wanted to be friends. I agreed and he asked me if I ever texted people. I said yes and he asked for my cell number and I gave it to him.
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