MakingChanges Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 So I have read books on getting back together and they have done some good help! I have made myself Better and I have my confidence and courage back I feel like nothing is holding me back! Well next week is the week that u picked a month after me committing to NC even though she broke it twice but it's the week I have picked to ask her one day to go to lunch or ice cream something to catch up on the past month! Just to talk and be me and forget the past I don't even want to think about it! To me see has been trying to stay in contact through a game on our phone after not playing for a while she started again! But it means very little but I just had concern! It's Easter sunday and we both go to same church last time we were at church two Sunday's ago she didn't even acknowledge me Or anything but that next wednesday she wanted to meet to get a little Money I owed her but it was casual! But a Girl told me to ask her at church to do something so ask in person! Me personally I just wanted to shoot her a text and say hey let's go get some ice cream an catch up how things been! Should I say that to start off a conversation since we really haven't texted or talked since our break up. Again she broke NC and I recently found out that the game we play she has been playing me but I got other ppl that play her and they say she hasn't played them but she keeps playing me back! Should I ask in person, text, or what! A buddy told me to wait, he said when it feels right that I should then continue to wait! Because I believe this time and space is eating her up in Ways!!!!
Ajax Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 It doesn't sound to me as if you're really clear headed enough to see her. And if she broke up with you then it's her responsibiliy to reach out to you... and a text or two... or a "game" doesn't cut it. Crumbs. I'd let sleeping dogs lie. Nothing good can come of this.
Author MakingChanges Posted April 21, 2011 Author Posted April 21, 2011 Yea crumbs mean nothing I was just thinking this because of some of these books I have read tell you to pick out a day a month after u start full NC and try to just talk like in general and catch up on things! I have a good feeling in my heart she will call out to me before I do seeing as her breaking NC twice and me none! But I think I'll wait an extra week! But like she deleted me and my aunt off her Facebook after my aunt was saying sonething on one of her photos and it seems like she is now trying to mend things with my aunt by playing her to bc my aunt lives in another state if she was done with me why would it matter to her to make things right with my aunt she never would see her again if she never got back with me!
Ajax Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Don't mean to sound insensitive, but I think you're reading too much into things. You want her back... I get it. So you're looking for signs that she wants back. It rarely works that way, and if you read these boards you'll see that those books about getting your ex back are mostly gimmicks, preying on guys desperate to get their ex back. A month really isn't that long. I havn't spoken to my ex in eight months, and have no intention of doing so. I just think that if you talk to her it'll set you back.
ahoy Posted April 22, 2011 Posted April 22, 2011 Only you'll know when you're ready to speak to her. That point is when you realise that however she responds doesn't make a difference to your life - whatsoever. Imagine that you ask her, and she says no; if this idea breaks your heart, or even hurts a little, you're not ready. If this happens, all the time you've spent healing has just been wasted because you ran before you could walk.
Author MakingChanges Posted April 22, 2011 Author Posted April 22, 2011 Well I'm religious and I pray alot and I have got alot of signs from god I believe that any relationship can work or be rebuilt through him anything is possible though him but he has made me a better person for MYSELF and to be strong! I'll still give it time bc I really can feel that she will contact me before I do her or try at least! I just keep praying and honestly that's what people could use on here is just for us to tell them we hope things work out the way god and you heart again your heart desires and not mind! I think that's better truth than saying something like I'm over looking it or things like that! Don't get me wrong most people are awesome but there r sour ones that didn't have patience and therefore lost the one they really love bc anything can be mended and fixed through Christ!
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