4 questions about NC

[Gagarin]

Hi All,

I am new here.

 

A week ago my (EX) girlfriend broke up with me for reasons of not giving her enough attention, due to my work and staying away for 2 weeks a month in a different country.

 

I started to beg her, and all that stuff ... give me another chance, bla bla. Nothing worked, she is stubborn.

 

A few days later, she accepted my invitation for a cup of tea after begging her so much. The meeting was okey till i started to speak about the past.

 

She said that we cannot be friends cause we are so different. But she would talk to me normally cause we were not enemies.

 

Now ... I am implementing th NC, but have 2 questions:

 

1. She is on my Facebook. Can I still post anything general to my facebook, or should i disappear from there? Can i write comment to other girls? no idea

 

2. Isn't it better to send her a very short email with the following text, before going to 4 weeks NC?

" I understand the pain I have caused you by not being there when you needed me. Please accept my apology. I think breaking up is a good decision. Good luck " (The text needs to be polished.)

 

3. Wouldn't NC have negative effects as we partly live in different countries? She always complained about not giving her attention and now i will disappear for 4 weeks!!!

 

4. Can i trust my feeling and think that I can do whatever possible but there no way to get her back?

 

Thank you very much for your help

Gagarin

Edited April 21, 2011 by Gagarin

[aypforever]

What is your point of NC? In the long run, you want to be with her? You're best off giving her what she wants and deleting her from your facebook. She doesn't want to be friends, so don't be friends.

 

You said you already had tea or whatever together, did you not do your apology then? And really, do you need to apologize for trying to make a living by traveling? Anyone serious about the relationship would understand that sometimes you need to do things for your job. This more than likely won't be a permanent situation.

 

3. That's the point of NC... NO CONTACT. Living in another country will further increase no contact.

 

4. There may always be a slim chance of getting her back. She needs to pull her head out of her ass and realize that she's not the only thing in your life. Maybe she needs to find things to keep her busy..

[Gagarin]

Thank you for your message,

 

I want to get her back.

 

I sent her a message that "I apologize for not being there when she needed me and i respect her decision of breaking up"

 

After 2 days she replied that : "from one side I am really happy for you that you understand your mistakes, and i hope that u will never repeat them with woman! preparing for easter...wish you all the best & happy easter. take care ... "

[sonic3]

Deleting her from Facebook might come across as a little childish and bitter. Your best just staying away from Facebook altogether for the duration of the NC period.

 

If you want to get her back then you have to completely disappear from her life, so stay away from Facebook and other social networking sites for a while, make it appear as though you have completely fallen off the face of the earth and don't contact her with your intentions or apologies or anything like that.

 

Disappearing will give her time to miss you and consider that she has lost you for good now that you aren't chasing after her, begging or pleading etc...

 

If she contacts you during the NC period, make sure you don't fall back into begging and pleading her, you need to use the time to work on yourself, sort out your emotions and get rid of any desperate feelings.

[Gagarin]

Thank you indeed for your advise and support.

Will let you know the result of 1000% NC after 5 weeks.

 

god bless you