Stung Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 To me, it's more about respect. I care more about (and somebody else posted this above) my significant others feelings than letting my **** hang out of my shorts or go to a nightclub with friends. There is just SOME stuff committed people shouldn't do. This part I mostly agree with--and I think I'm the one you're referring to who talked about respecting your partner's feelings. My own husband wouldn't like me wearing butt-shorts out and about, and I can understand that and I respect his feelings, though I should point out that wearing those shorts isn't something I want to do anyway. Our opinions diverge, however, when you start saying committed people shouldn't do whatever, as a hard and fast rule that applies to all couples. I think couples need to set their own boundaries. Some people are fine with their partner dressing sexy or going to a nightclub or bar, some people aren't. Some people are even fine with their partner's going to strip clubs, and others think that's totally disrespectful. I know couples who enjoy dressing sexy for others and each other because they enjoy the ego stroke, they appreciate each other's bodies, and aren't worried about it because they trust each other. Who am I, or who are you, to tell these rational adults they shouldn't be dressing the way they want to, or that their commitment is lesser because of it?
Author chucksagent Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 Very, very well said Stung...I like your style. I think you grasp, AND agree with probably my ultimate point; Is wearing revealing shorts (for whatever reason you want to) worth upsetting or making your LOVED ONE feel uneasy. And I guess it really isn't limited to dress. Let me be a gentleman and draw some MORE SIMILAR paralells. "Sweetheart, me and the guys are going golfing." ~ 85% of people who enjoy golf. = No reasonable concern from wife. "Hunny, me and the girls are going shopping." ~ 85% of people who enjoy shopping are women. = No reasonable concern from husband. NOW... "Sweetheart, me and the guys are going to the strip club." As you said, if BOTH parties are ok with it - so be it - whatever floats your boat. BUT VERY REASNABLE concern. "Hunny, me and the girls are going to this singles club to drink and dance." Again, if both parties agree, so be it. But we are ALL human beings..human beings make MISTAKES - I don't care who you are. People don't set out and say "Im going to break my lovers heart and cheat." 90% of the time its a bad situation that escalates (and the bad situation you put yourself in COULD have been avoided. If you are married or in serious relationship, why are you drinking and dancing at a singles club in the first place??? Can't you dance, in theory, ANYWHERE!?!? If its the ACT of dancing you enjoy so much? Or is it the act of getting drunk and having random dudes grind all over you and boost your ego. Because women claim they HATE all these gross pervs grinding on them. Well, hmmm..That'd be if I LOVE honey, I go to a Buble Bee Harm and get swarmed and stung and ANNOYED by all these bees...Well why do that when I can go to the grocery store and get the honey there with no annoyances? Often women say one thing and do another. "Oh I hate the club, all these dudes grinding all over me..." THEN WHY GO?!?! Now as for your situation if the man refuses to dance with you. Unless he tells you he doesn't mind you going to clubs, he is SOMEWHAT forcing your hand. ALthough, I guess like I said you can dance anywhere doesn't have to be a meat market singles dance club.
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