pippa02 Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Hi everyone, really need some type of advice.. here is my background story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t272654/ .. Ok, out of nowhere my sister in law calls me tonight and says I don't really know if you will like to hear this but im going to tell you anyway.. She says she ran into my ex about a week ago, she said straight away he brought me up "hows pippa?, is she okay? I miss her sooo much!" My sister in law told him how I was doing GREAT! (over exagerated). They are pretty good mates, through me so they went for a drink.. my sister in law said that he repetedly said he loves me but it was the right thing too do to break up for me because he knew I wouldn't cope well at long distance at all ( which is true). My sister in law said to him that he should of at leas given me the option to make up the decision for myself rather than just dumping me soo unexpectdly without speaking. She also said he said "is pippa seeing anyone else? " I couldnt handle it if she is" "it would kill me" I asked her if those were his exact words she said yes. I'm no confused! i know we loved each other, and had such a good relationship. i really dont understand him! if he didnt mean this stuff then why would he even bother saying it too her? anyway the sister in law told him to leave me alone and not contact me until he knew exactly what he wanted he said ok.. any insights or advice????
0hpenelope Posted April 21, 2011 Posted April 21, 2011 Just let him come to you. He made the decision for you that you can't handle the long distance relationship. I hope you've been going on dates or at least considered some. Your sister in law's a smart lady for telling him that he must leave you alone until he can figure out what he wants. Don't put your life on hold; pursue things that interest you. In the process, you make yourself interesting to others, which may or may not include your ex. Seems like he will be interested, though. As for feeling pain if you were seeing other guys, too bad for him. He chose to let you go. Life goes on for you. Lastly, from homebrew's words: "For me, I will not pursue someone who broke up with me." Your ex may have conflicting feelings but in the end, he still chose to break up with you. Take care & good luck!
Author pippa02 Posted April 23, 2011 Author Posted April 23, 2011 Thanks penelope, I went on a date last night with a guy from university, it was nice and fine, but I still can't really bare the thought of being with someone else. he was a nice guy and everything. I guess its just going to take some time, was good to get out though!
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